happymom Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 My H and i are seperated but we are talking and getting along. Not sure where we're going with our marriage but we do love each other. I have asked the question on different LS threads but haven't heard responses. I am wondering if anyone has maintained a marriage BUT lived separatedly? Second issue: My H's ex (his daughters' mother) was sad about our separation, but I feel deep inside that she is probably happy. he doesn't think she wants him, but I do. She is an alcoholic and has been calling him dozens of times per day...drunk and feeling sorry for herself, and wanting sympathy I guess. I said to him I would call her on this. This is NOT something she's done or would do if he and I were living in the same house. I don't plan on calling her because it's something they need to figure out, but it still bothers me..any input from anyone? please!
Storyrider Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 My H and i are seperated but we are talking and getting along. Not sure where we're going with our marriage but we do love each other. I have asked the question on different LS threads but haven't heard responses. I am wondering if anyone has maintained a marriage BUT lived separatedly? There is a book that came out recently on the subject of married couples who prefer to live separately. I heard the author interviewed on the radio. She is a marriage counselor, I think, but I don't know her name. Maybe you could look it up on Amazon.
Mr. Lucky Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I have asked the question on different LS threads but haven't heard responses. I am wondering if anyone has maintained a marriage BUT lived separatedly? You can maintain a relationship living separately but not a marriage. Depends what you want. Also, your second issue might be related to your first question - would all this be going on if you were under the same roof? Mr. Lucky
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Have you and your H talked about going to marriage counselling? As for his ex, she's drinking and not thinking clearly. If she is trying to make a play for him, I doubt he'll fall into her arms. It would be a bad mistake for him to get involved with her, especially since she's not taking care of herself in a healthy way. Let's hope he sees that in his ex and stays distant towards her.
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