Guest Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Reading all these posts, it seems in general women love men more than men love women. How many OM have loved their MW so selflessly as the many OW love their MM? When a woman loves a man, she cares about him in all ways. But not so often for a man who loves a woman. (I'm not saying always, but in most cases) Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Great job on the generalizing. Couldn't you have made it a bit broader brush though? Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Women are selfless lovers? Uh...no...I don't think so. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 What about MM loving their OM/MW? Or MW/OW loving their OM/MM? The married person cheating has it all, doesn't make a difference if the person is male or female! They're selfish and having TWO people meet all their needs. Go read ratingsguy's thread. He's an OM who loves his MW. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Most single men with a few exceptions know that a married woman is not somebody you persue a relationship with. Women on the other hand tend to let their emotions get the best of them and all logic goes out the window. When a woman actually gets that commitment from a man though then the love decreases. Link to post Share on other sites
MySugaree Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Reading all these posts, it seems in general women love men more than men love women. How many OM have loved their MW so selflessly as the many OW love their MM? When a woman loves a man, she cares about him in all ways. But not so often for a man who loves a woman. (I'm not saying always, but in most cases) While individual differences certainly exist regarding varying capacities for "love," gender (hormones)plays a role. I perceive women, on balance, as more relationship-centric than men, Women, in my experience navigate relationships better than men. Women are Captains of the Heart; men are often just passengers. Perhaps it's not simply a question of skill. Women seem to "care" more about relationships than men. And given the whole reproductive, family thing, that's unsurprising. Finally, as for OM not caring for their MW as much as OW care for their OM, that's a crock. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Women seem to "care" more about relationships than men. And given the whole reproductive, family thing, that's unsurprising. whereas most men spend their time worrying and obsessing about more objective things... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 While individual differences certainly exist regarding varying capacities for "love," gender (hormones)plays a role. I perceive women, on balance, as more relationship-centric than men, Women, in my experience navigate relationships better than men. Women are Captains of the Heart; men are often just passengers. Perhaps it's not simply a question of skill. Women seem to "care" more about relationships than men. And given the whole reproductive, family thing, that's unsurprising. This I agree with, but there are some men that are an exception and those are the men that have the equal balance. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenEyedLady Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 I think that men and women have the same capacity for love and just express it in different ways... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Here's my injection of cynicism. I agree with the OP. I have yet to meet a man in a relationship who loves a woman more than himself. No doubt there are men who haven't captured the woman and obsess about them but generally speaking, men tend to think of themselves first before they think of the relationship or their significant others. Of course there are exceptions to every generalization. Link to post Share on other sites
FellFromHeven Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 I agree - we all have the same capacity for love - we just express it diff. My OP was much more emotionally expressive than my H could ever be. Link to post Share on other sites
BKRPM Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 Rarely do I have such a polar belief about things, but I think this is one of the silliest statements that I have ever heard. I'm sorry - not trying to sound harsh, but, for #1, it seems as if 75%+ of the posters on this forum are women. That might seem to skew the numbers. I wish that I wouldn't have gotten into the situation with my MW, but it is what it is, and I love her in every way possible. I have a good friend that is in a similar situation, and you cannot believe how in love he is with his MW. So, yes, please don't use such a broad brush to paint things. Link to post Share on other sites
Babybird Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 Like so many others have said I think men just express their feelings differently. As far as women being more family oriented and caring more than men...totally disagree. Many women force the men out because they don't do things the 'right' way but that doesn't mean they care or love less. My sister is absolutely anal about the way her son is taken care of. If my B-in-L changes his diaper wrong she re-does it. I know a lot of women who have the attitude that he just doesn't do things the right way so they do it themselves, leaving the men to do other things. That could make men look more selfish even though they're the ones being pushed away. Don't get me wrong, I know some extremely selfish men. But I also know some extremely selfish women. Back to the love thing: I'm an OW and my MM is more expressive with his feelings than I am. I have no doubt that he loves me as much as I love him. Link to post Share on other sites
oyster Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 WELL, there are may be 5-6 known OM (a hand full) on this board. The rest are OW. I loved my ex-MW unconditionally, with time as she dragged it out, natural instinct kicked in. I had to protect my heart and look after who is number #1: My Self. Yes as thing don't go as plan, you become selfish and love yourself more than the other. Which I think is good because in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first and be able to set them free and yourself freee. Link to post Share on other sites
oyster Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 Most single men with a few exceptions know that a married woman is not somebody you persue a relationship with. agreed from a rational point of view. when a person's action speak louder than their words or status. I judge by that. when I met my MW, she was living the life of a single woman. Where I failed is to asked her if her "seperation" was a legal one or just taking a breather. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 when I met my MW, she was living the life of a single woman. Where I failed is to asked her if her "seperation" was a legal one or just taking a breather. ahh but even if you did ask, OYSTER....she could have lied. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 ahh but even if you did ask, OYSTER....she could have lied. Do you believe that's any different from what a number of OW experience on LS? I'm still of the belief that generally speaking, men are essentially more self-serving than women. More #1 oriented. At this point in time, I don't think this is such a bad thing anymore. If anything, it's the better way to go. More women need to learn this attitude and then more relationships would be on an equitable playing field. Best to assert certain boundaries, rather than getting too wrapped up in the relationship and losing sight of what's good for you as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 I disagree. The capacity of love is equal in men and women. Some people just use you. You have to develop that discernment to read who's snowing you. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 agreed from a rational point of view. when a person's action speak louder than their words or status. I judge by that. when I met my MW, she was living the life of a single woman. Where I failed is to asked her if her "seperation" was a legal one or just taking a breather. When you found out she was lying you should have dumped her ass. Also this idea that women are selfless than men is utterly absurd. Some women really think a lot of themselves that they don't see the faults of their gender. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 I don't believe women love men more than men love women. I believe that there is often a disparity in a couple and one may love more than the other. The one that loves more accepts more crap because they want to believe. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Share Posted March 11, 2007 I'll just throw out a couple of superficial examples. Acts of considering the other. There's a unisex store where each of these participants goes to buy something they need. One is a guy, the other is a woman. Who is more likely to consider the other individual, bothering to browse through the other genders side of the store and possibly get them something too? How many men gift women with items they want for themselves? How many women do this? As usual, there are always exceptions to every generalization. Link to post Share on other sites
Karma24 Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Well, a man looks out for himself first because who else is going to slay the dragon if he doesn't? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Well, a man looks out for himself first because who else is going to slay the dragon if he doesn't? If a woman is worth it a man will move heaven and earth for the woman he loves but so few women today are worth it so men decide it is better to look out for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 If a woman is worth it a man will move heaven and earth for the woman he loves but so few women today are worth it so men decide it is better to look out for himself. one man's garbage is another man's treasure Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 If a woman is worth it a man will move heaven and earth for the woman he loves but so few women today are worth it so men decide it is better to look out for himself. The same thing for women. A respectable woman will not go out of her way for a spineless POS woman hater. Link to post Share on other sites
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