l-o-s-t Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I'm starting to get really stressed out now... Basically, I've been subtly "flirting" with a particular girl for the past month - if you can even call it that. All it really consists of is making good eye contact, but she would pretty much always return it, and I swear she even smiled at me once. Unfortunately, that happened right before a week break from school, and that's where it all went downhill (if there ever was a hill). I decided I would try to kick things up a notch or two when I got back to school, try to start chatting her up a bit, ya know? I just wanted to see one more smile to be sure it wasn't just some random mistake on my part, and then I would start to "move in". A week went by, and nothing was happening. I started stressing out, and decided I would reverse the roles and shoot a smile her way this time and see how that went over. But ever since we got back from that break, it seems that whatever interest there may have been has gone away. In 2 weeks, I don't think she's made eye contact once - certainly not long enough for me to flash a smile anyway. What gives? Did I do something, or just wait too long? A couple weeks ago she'd stare for an almost uncomfortable amount of time, and now I can't even get a sidelong glance! Aggg!
brandie32 Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 You are so sweet, sound like you really like this girl. Well this is a good thing, and a very positive emotion. The fact that you like this girl is great for you and very flattering for her. She probably is a little confused why you have not spoken to her. she may feel that she is mis-reading the situation. the most attractive part of a guy is confidence. You do not have to aske her out, but you should say something. Just keep it simple and nice, do not forget to smile when you talk and look her in the eyes. If you like the conection that you made than continue to talk to her until you feel like asking her phone number to do something fun. If you feel like no chemistry than you may move on at that point and she was great practice for the next crush.
LN99 Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Is she avoiding eye contact with you now? LIke if you look at her, she will look away or down? Might be that she's nervous. Some girls feel that if you make lots of eye contact, you can tell exactly what they are thinking. Or maybe she's in a situation right now where its best not to get involved. Or maybe she met someone else and has moved on seeing as you never approached her. Who knows? Point is....just try to be friendly to her. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, then maybe your timing was wrong....or she's moved on. Point is, don't beat yourself up about it.
Author l-o-s-t Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 sound like you really like this girl. You have no idea. But alas, I think I know what has happened now. In my quest for answers, I stumbled upon her facebook and subsequently her AIM profile. I figured if she was at all like me, there would be a lot of info to be had in there. I was right. Unfortunately, I was not ready for what I found. It appears to me that she has recently broken up, and is in that "I'm free" attitude. I myself know this attitude all to well, and I know it's not something that's likely to be changed. I knew I was getting in way to deep, but I just let myself fall. For once, I just let go of common sense and let my emotions take me where they wanted. I let go of the "you can't do it" attitude, and replaced it with "what if?". Deep down, I knew it would come back and bite me, but I didn't care. I was living too much in the moment. I know nothing is set in stone, but it might as well be. I guess when you jump off a higher cliff, you hit the ground harder when you fall. Curiosity killed the cat, didn't it?
brandie32 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I may not have any idea, but from your note it sounded like a nice crush. Love, lust, and desire are great feelings. It makes it fun to get up and gives you a little something to look forward to. Sometimes it works out and sometime it just does not, but you should never give up. So you move on to someone else that inspires you. If you keep a positive outlook on life good things will happen, not all of the time-most of the time. Is there anyone else that makes you smile? Not saying you need to put it all out there, but having a lust interest is fun. Do not take it so seriously, until the time is right and the feelings are returned.
Author l-o-s-t Posted March 12, 2007 Author Posted March 12, 2007 I guess I didn't phrase that too well. By "you have no idea" I was agreeing, not cursing at you. I wasn't thinking too clearly last night, so forgive me if it came off as being rude. Perhaps "so true" or "you have no idea how true it is" would have been more appropriate.
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 All the sensitive ones got eaten. (miss sloath to other in Ice Age) When your fears, expectations and emotions suck out your power, confidence and bla bla...you are doomed. Learn a little self control....dont dream so much...what if, what then....forget it. Dont think too much what to do and do what you feel would do Brien Boitano.
Pretty Fly Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 All the sensitive ones got eaten. (miss sloath to other in Ice Age) When your fears, expectations and emotions suck out your power, confidence and bla bla...you are doomed. Learn a little self control....dont dream so much...what if, what then....forget it. Dont think too much what to do and do what you feel would do Brien Boitano. Think: "what would James Bond do?"
Author l-o-s-t Posted March 13, 2007 Author Posted March 13, 2007 Aye, but Bond always gets the girl Oh well, I'm actually moving on better than I expected. I guess I'm used to failure by now...
Guest Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 lost, you remind me so much of my friend who is too chicken to approach a girl and let her know how he feels. Actually, both of you talk exactly the same and you both have the same eye color which is a strange coincidence - I hope that you're not him because he's been awfully distant lately and he's not the type to tell me if he's crushing on someone or not lol. Anyways, you just have to give it some time and hang in there. You will eventually find someone so don't put yourself down. Who knows, there are probably a lot of girls who like you and you don't even know it. Just make sure that you go for the ones that really matter, especially if you have a big heart and it seems like you do. Good luck
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