confucious Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I recently (a month ago) have gotten involved with an attractive woman who is intelligent, motivated, shares some of the same ideals and morals as me etc etc. We have great physical chemistry and get along well, but there certainly isn't that "spark". This is partly due to my just having come out of a rocky relationship - initially I wanted to be single for awhile but this just sort of happened. She knows this and seems to be fine with it all - I actually get the feeling she is just into the physical side, a FWB scene...but other times I am not so sure. I guess my main question is about the nights she ends up in my bed. For all you women out there... When you have had a fun night (dinner etc.) that has ended up with a few hours of frolic in the bedroom, do you want to sleep there??? If it is just a FWB do you want to sleep over or would you rather be home in your own bed?? Is she thinking this is something more? She lives a 10 minute drive from me, so it is not far, but she always curls up and wants to sleep over. Just curious. And yes - I will talk with her soon...just wanted to get some other perspectives.
a4a Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 depends on how tired I am...... or drinking that night..... no desire for a DUI. BTW I don't do this much now that I am married........ start boinkin' at her house so you can just pack up and leave after the deed.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 hmm this is hard for me to answer..i only have sex with guys i'm in a relationship so i always end up sleeping over because they are my serious bf. if she wants to sleep over, then i think she wants more than friends with benefits. usually girls who are just in it for the physical want to get the heck out of there. actually sleeping over after having sex is more of a relationshipy thing to do. do u want her to sleep over? or do u just want her to leave, but dont want to kick her out? if u really do just want a wam-bam-thank u ma'm type thing then maybe u should go back to her place, so then u can just leave at anytime. u def. do need to have a talk with her about what u guys are to each other.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Gosh, cuddling next to a warm body is (FOR WOMEN) almost as good as the sex especially if she usually sleeps alone! I don't think it necesarily means she's thinking about moving in!
IpAncA Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I recently (a month ago) have gotten involved with an attractive woman who is intelligent, motivated, shares some of the same ideals and morals as me etc etc. We have great physical chemistry and get along well, but there certainly isn't that "spark". This is partly due to my just having come out of a rocky relationship - initially I wanted to be single for awhile but this just sort of happened. She knows this and seems to be fine with it all - I actually get the feeling she is just into the physical side, a FWB scene...but other times I am not so sure. I guess my main question is about the nights she ends up in my bed. For all you women out there... When you have had a fun night (dinner etc.) that has ended up with a few hours of frolic in the bedroom, do you want to sleep there??? If it is just a FWB do you want to sleep over or would you rather be home in your own bed?? Is she thinking this is something more? She lives a 10 minute drive from me, so it is not far, but she always curls up and wants to sleep over. Just curious. And yes - I will talk with her soon...just wanted to get some other perspectives. Do you have a problem with her sleeping over?
Author confucious Posted March 10, 2007 Author Posted March 10, 2007 I am torn, Ipanca... My bed is extra tiny, an unavoidable situation since my room is extra tiny. This is alright but creates a super intimate sleeping arrangement. That may sound odd when I have stated we are "sleeping" together, but there is a different kind of intimacy in sleeping pretty much in someone's arms and having sex. I tend to have a miserable sleep when she is over. Not her fault, just a fact. On the other hand I DO enjoy the late night closeness.
IpAncA Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I am torn, Ipanca... My bed is extra tiny, an unavoidable situation since my room is extra tiny. This is alright but creates a super intimate sleeping arrangement. That may sound odd when I have stated we are "sleeping" together, but there is a different kind of intimacy in sleeping pretty much in someone's arms and having sex. I tend to have a miserable sleep when she is over. Not her fault, just a fact. On the other hand I DO enjoy the late night closeness. No I understand what your saying. I can see how confortable it is with 2 people in a tiny bed. I too use to have that problem. NO ROOM at all and ugh...it was horrible because I would ALWAYS get squished. I'm not a body pillow. My suggestion is to not put yourself in a position where she ends up spending the night if it REALLY starts interfering with your sleep. Unless you can afford to get a bigger bed which I don't think you should do just for her. Does she do this a lot or is this once in a while? If it's once in a while seems like that can be tolerated.
brandie32 Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 I think you need to be direct with her and tell her what you are feeling. Having sex and not wnting her to sleep over is strange. And if that is really how you feel than you just should not be having sex, with this girl. She may want more than you can give so be honest and tell her so she can make a choise that is good for her. But really you sound like a grown up get a bigger bed for the future. Nothing more unsexy than a guy that is still sleeping in a twin bed
Author confucious Posted March 13, 2007 Author Posted March 13, 2007 Hey Brandie - thanks for you reply. I know she is "seeing" someone else at the moment as well as me. What that entails, I don't know, but I am certain it means she is not too serious about "us". I also get this feeling through all her little actions that she is just in this for the fun - she is quite physically motivated. And yes, that does mean I haven't discussed things with her yet - I have been "hiding" (hehe) as I have slowly been realizing I have to end it permanently cause I'm realizing I am really NOT capable of a "fling" at the moment. Too recent after my break-up. Goes to show - men DON"T only think with thier trouser snakes!! I am crushed...I thought I read in Chatelaine years ago that women LOVED men with little boys beds...
IpAncA Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Hey Brandie - thanks for you reply. I know she is "seeing" someone else at the moment as well as me. What that entails, I don't know, but I am certain it means she is not too serious about "us". I also get this feeling through all her little actions that she is just in this for the fun - she is quite physically motivated. And yes, that does mean I haven't discussed things with her yet - I have been "hiding" (hehe) as I have slowly been realizing I have to end it permanently cause I'm realizing I am really NOT capable of a "fling" at the moment. Too recent after my break-up. Goes to show - men DON"T only think with thier trouser snakes!! Well just think you'll be able to sleep again.
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