marlena Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Should we listen to our gut feelings after all or should we rather use our powers of rational thought? Specifically when it involves our relationships with the other gender?
justagirlforever Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Tricky tricky. If you (one) can actually acknowledge their gut instinct and trust it, then I believe so yes. But those instincts are often overshadowed by other factors that make it difficult to really trust as a gut instinct. And how often do we not suppress that instinct and carry on - just in case we were wrong? Sometimes we know something in our heart of hearts - but don't acknowledge it - even to ourselves. Especially to ourselves. And rational thought - well there's another one that is tricky. Because how often can be be objectively rational & logical in a personal romantically confusing relationship? Rarely - of ever. So not an easy answer.
agnf666 Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I would go with Gut feelings... Your mind can play tricks on you. You may think one thing and be completely wrong about it.
EnigmasMuse Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I would have to say to trust the gut instinct. However, their have been times in my life, espically where relationships are concerned, that I trusted my gut instinct that something was wrong. But that was just it, I knew something was wrong, so the gut instinct wasn't wrong about that, but sometimes trusting your gut instinct doesn't always mean you will know what it is that was wrong. Just that something was. So some of my past relationships I knew something was wrong but never ever found out what that was. I never really had clear cut answers, other than something wasn't right.
Author marlena Posted March 9, 2007 Author Posted March 9, 2007 Tricky tricky. So not an easy answer. Yes, tricky indeed... , and one that never ceases to send those "little grey cells into a whirl"!!! Very much like that proverbial "fork in the road"! The "ifs" that haunt our lives!!! So, I thought I would toss this out to see what other people think!!! Some things we are not meant to know, I conclude!!!
Author marlena Posted March 9, 2007 Author Posted March 9, 2007 I would go with Gut feelings... Your mind can play tricks on you. You may think one thing and be completely wrong about it. As can the stirrings of your inner organs!! Yes????
Yamaha Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Depends on your gender. Women will listen to their gut ( emotions ) because that is the way they "feel". Men will usually analyze the situation to death before makling a decision. Which way is the best? Anyone's guess. Both have merit. I guess a little gut with logic is probably the best of both methods.
oppath Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Your gut feeling will always tell you if something is wrong. What it won't tell you is WHAT IS WRONG! It's important not to jump to irrational conclusions. Every time my gut has told me something has been up in my relationships, I've been right. Usually, I've been right about what it was. All you can control, however, is how you express your feelings to the person you are dating. If someone is acting distant, and you think something is up, don't say "why are you acting so distant? What's going on?" Say "I feel you haven't been quite yourself lately and you seem a little distant. What's your perspective on that?" Also, if someone is insecure and expresses concern, the person acting distant/wrong will often blame the insecure person as being insecure for no reason when there IS a reason. This is why it is important that you address things assertively without accusation as soon as you notice something is up, and then back off for a while and give the other person a chance to respond/change their behavior.
whichwayisup Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Depends on your gender. Women will listen to their gut ( emotions ) because that is the way they "feel". Men will usually analyze the situation to death before makling a decision. Gut instinct is gut instinct, male or female....It's when one second guesses it and over thinks, is when mistakes are made. I think most of us have said to ourselves, "I wish I had listened to my gut." Airplane!!! "Jim never has a second cup of coffee at home." "I never should have had that second cup of coffee..."
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