thejoker244 Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Okay, maybe this is a stupid question, but Im a stupid person..so here goes :-P Say someone has the idea that you are pining over them, either through word or deed, and their interest is waning. Whats the best way to go about getting that interest back? Im asking because I tend to find myself in this situation more often than not, so I need a plan of attack, so to speak. Temporary avoidance seems to be what I hear most often, but Im looking to see what others opinions are. thanks.
stace79 Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 I hate to say it, because I absolutely DESPISE game playing, but the only way I EVER get through to the guy I'm dating/friends with/whatever is to give him a taste of life without me. So yes, to answer your question, don't be so available. I think my biggest mistake is having instant messenger open all day...then he can contact me if/whenever he wants. If I'm not signed on all day, he is forced to make more of an effort to call or ask me out. If he doesn't do that, then I know his interest level is not really there and I can respectfully move on.
Author thejoker244 Posted March 9, 2007 Author Posted March 9, 2007 Well, I would like to maintain a friendship with this person. We were friends before we got involved, so Im not sure how long of a "silent" period I should go for. What do you recommend, Stace79?
FellFromHeven Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Go buy this book right now! The author is Sherry Argov. Think about the guys that were really into you in the past - but you were not into them - they called and called and called - right? Go get the book - go now!
Author thejoker244 Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 would it really do me good? Im the guy thats trying to get the girl interested again...if it will provide some useful insight, I'll check it out.
Guest Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 would it really do me good? Im the guy thats trying to get the girl interested again...if it will provide some useful insight, I'll check it out. If you leave her dangling too long, she'll think you are not interested and her eyes will roam elsewhere so be careful!
Author thejoker244 Posted March 11, 2007 Author Posted March 11, 2007 Well, it appears that maybe she's lost some interest in me, which is why my friends are suggesting that I make myself a little scarce for a while...so Im hoping this will help rekindle the interest, but Im not sure. I certainly dont wanna "dangle" her too long...in fact, she may be doing the same thing to me, haha. This is such a confusing situation!
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I also hate games. Just assert your personal boundaries and remember that your time matters too. If you don't show self-respect, how in the world will she respect you?
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