Fairytale Dreamer Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Hi everyone, I am new to this forum and stumbled upon this website while looking for advice online. I know this isnt the best to do when you are new to a website but I am desperately confused about the relationship I am in. I met my boyfriend in September of 06 and we hung out with no intentions of getting into a relationship. Well next thing we both know we realize this isn't something we don't want to pass up and started dating exclusively/officially in Nov. Things escalated from that time very fast. We hung out everyday basically, talked all the time, and so forth on. I started spending nights over at his house a month or so into the relationship. We both have always been really serious about each other and the relationship. I met his family early into the relationship and all of his friends. Well for me it has always been difficult to bring a boyfriend around my family but for the holidays I felt so strong about him that I did. Fast forward to the past couple of weeks now. For Valentines day he bought me a gorgeous necklace with pendent that was pretty expensive. Things were great. We talked about moving in together and all that but currently I'm living with my parents. My mom has a huge influence on me and can make me do 180s in a matter of seconds along with getting me to think twice about a lot of things. She's never approved of any of the relationships I've been in and has always looked for the fault with all the guys, even my boyfriend now. My family does like him. Well things got pretty bad with my home life and my parents freaked on me when I told them in the summer I was planning on moving out, knowing well enough it was going to be with my boyfriend. Things got so bad I got kicked out and was spending all the time I had to be at home at my boyfriends to escape the war I had at home. He wanted me to move in and I kept telling him no because I couldnt live off of him even though he offered (im a junior in college still working a part time internship). We have a 10 year age gap between us as well but other than the past 2 weeks we've gotten along great and seen eye to eye. Anyways, lately things have been different between us. We got into a huge fight a week and half ago because I rushed to get home due to a snowstorm that our city was getting and I knew my parents would flip if I wasnt home for the weekend only to cause another war. So I've been stressed the last month with school, work, my parents, and deciding if I really did want to move in with him or if it just was to escape the hell I was recently living in (i was confused and where I really felt about the relationship). Because of being stressed I havent been myself and have been acting really weird such as being clingy, demanding, needy, and bitching. Well since the fight we haven't really talked much and hung out. I use to get good morning texts or how ur day texts everyday or even a call around 6ish to see how my day went. Now all I get is a good nite text or maybe even a call late at night around 9-12ish. We did resolve the fight but things havent been the same this way. If I call or text him he will answer but it just feels like I'm doing all the effort lately. His biggest complaint in the fight was how my parents especially my mom had that much of an ifluence on me. He did say he didn't want to break up but felt that we both needed to grow up and realize some things in our own lives. He then said that the way he treats me he expects me to treat him. Realizing I may have lost the one guy who I felt I could see a future with I'm freaked out. There are times I want to just give up and not bother anymore but then there are times where I feel maybe I should just try some things differently. I did change in the relationship such as not really doing the things I use to do for him anymore like bringing him a shake at work on a break at my school, dressing up, putting makeup/doing my hair, etc. Throughout this whole ordeal I have realized I dont want to lose him because I do want to start a life with this man. Any ideas or input on this whole ordeal on what to do? I'm so lost. He never has treated me like this or acted like he is now which scares me more than anything that he may be giving up on this. HELP! He has been extremely stressed lately by his roomate moving out making him pay for the entire house payment, his dad getting cancer, us fighting, and some other things. The only thing I can think of doing is possibly doing the things I did in the beginning of the relationship..like tomorrow on my break at school dropping a shake off at work for him, maybe take him out on the town since I can't take him to a race track (which we both love) because it's winter.
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