mslaci Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 needless to say i'm only 18, and i got myself involved with a 22 year old... not that there is anything wrong with that but i need some help here. we were really good friends for 3 years, and in those three years i fell so hard for him, but never in a million years pictured myself with him. we dated/hooked up for 4 months, and we've officially been dating for 10 months. we've made it through hell & back... but monday was an off day for me & i flipped & i said some really harsh things, than i instantly ran to change everything because of how upset i was, and all out of anger... in return he did the same. on tuesday i told him i was sorry for my actions, and that i just need a few days to myself & in return he told me he doesn't love me anymore & he doesn't want anything i have of his etc.. than i found out that he started talking to this girl that tried ruining our relationship in the beginning & neither of us have talked to her in 6 months. he's also blocked all communication with me (at least online... i won't dare try calling or become a stalker)... when we got into a relationship after 2 months he ignored me & went off on his own way & after a month he came back around, but what can i do to ease the situation & possibly speed up him coming back to me.. if you think he will.
MoonGirl Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Just let him know that you are sorry (which you already did). Don't beg, plead, or stalk. If he misses you, he will contact you. Sorry to hear you're in so much pain. If he's talking to the other girl, that's not good. If he is that fickle, maybe you need a different guy anyway??
Author mslaci Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 how long do you think i should wait to try & contact him? usually when he finds another girl he realizes how right i am for him. i mean i have letters from him telling me he knows i'm the only one for him & we were planning on moving out together in june, i don't know though.
MoonGirl Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Speaking from experience...I dated a 22 year-old when I was 18. We're still friends, by the way..15 years later! LOL.... If I had to do everything all over again I would never ever move in with a guy at 18 (been there, done that!). Read the book "Why Men Love B*tches" and then "Why Men Marry B*tches". Very insightful I think! I was completely enamored by my guy when I was 18...he was my WHOLE world. And, like your guy, he looked around, met other girls, and came running back to me many times. When I was 20 I finally let him go. And then I got myself into a whole other mess (totally different story!). Anyhow, all I can tell you is there are men who DON'T look for other girls, date other girls, and then come running back to you. No matter how much you love this guy, don't lay down and be his doormat. Also, if he does come back, make sure you work on your communication skills. If you fight dirty, you've got to stop that because whatever you say in the heat of the moment can never be taken back. Give your guy a week to cool off. During that time, I suggest no emails, texts, calls, etc. Give him a chance to miss you.
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