xtech Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 hey ppl. right now im really sad bcuz my gf for 5 years and has confessed to me yesterday that she has kissed another guy. wen she was 16 she went to another country and went to a party, she said the guy was talkin to her and they both started sharing their problems. the guy went on to kiss her and she thout that by doint that it would all b ok so they kept on kissing, bcuz she saw how otherss did the same to their bf's. our relationship continued till today that we are 19. she just confessed to me yesterday that this time wen she went bak to the same country, she was at a party and got a few drinks in her (she is alergic to drinkin) and this time got a lil drunk. and the same guy as before was next to her and she says he kissed her. our relationship seemed to b a good one but after she confessed this im thinkin that all the promises she has made and all the things she says to me are all lies. i really love this girl but im not sure what to do. she says she is really sorry, and she dosnt kno why she did this again. worst thing is we are in a long distance relationship and i dont kno how to deal with this or if her promise of not doing it again will b true. any advice will make me feel better. thanks in advanced
stace79 Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Maybe you guys should take a little break and see how you feel in a month or two. You are both pretty young and have lots of time to find "the one" or whatever. If you are meant to be together, you will be. But it is not right for her to do this type of thing that she knows hurts you. Drinking is no excuse for bad behavior.
Author xtech Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 i dont kno what u mean by break, we have been far away from each other for 1 year now. she went to another country and all we do is talk on the phone and chat. we havnt been together for a year.
LakesideDream Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 If that's the case, you should feel lucky she was just kissing on the lips. Seriously, you both are just kids, don't expect miracles. Girls will be girls, just like boys will be boys. There is plenty of time to get "serious" when you become adults. Relax, look forward to her homecomming, and start new then.
amerikajin Posted March 11, 2007 Posted March 11, 2007 I think you need to address your relationship openly and ask her if she wants to continue. If I didn't know any better, it sounds like she's trying to find a way out of the relationship. I could be wrong, but sometimes girls at this age will pull this kind of stunt. She's either trying to get your attention or she's trying to give you a reason to break up with her so she doesn't have to do the dirty work. I'd just get to the point and see what she says.
norajane Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 You haven't been together for a year? Are you ever going to be together? I think the kissing is a troubling sign, because it shows that she won't restrain herself from other men if the opportunity arises. But with your relationship being so distant anyway and for so long, I'm not clear on why you are together. Perhaps you are really friends and can't be bf/gf because you can't ever be in the same location.
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 the guy went on to kiss her and she thout that by doint that it would all b ok so they kept on kissing, bcuz she saw how otherss did the same to their bf's. So basically if she saw other girls jumping off a cliff she would do the same too? the same guy as before was next to her and she says he kissed her. So basically she has no control over herself, she has a boyfriend yet she will just kiss this same guy... Same guy...hmm...makes me wonder if she was in contact with this guy possibly? Must be a fluke to meet the same guy about 3 years down the line, such a small world I guess. She seems to follow the rest of the heard rather than be the one to make up her own mind too. I'm just thinking its lucky it was a kiss... Other girls sleep with other guys while drunk too, think she may remember this and use "I got drunk" as an excuse to sleep with a guy...or maybe the same guy. I think you should move on before you get way too deeply hurt from this girl.
Trialbyfire Posted March 12, 2007 Posted March 12, 2007 It's your level of tolerance. You decide if this is acceptable, although BES has a point about this happening with the same guy three years apart. She must have an attraction to him. Drinking is no excuse. If you can't handle your booze, ease off on the amount you intake while you're in other company. Both of you are very young and have dated for a long time. Perhaps it's time for you to start experimenting too. If you decide to do this, make certain you break it off first though.
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