MikeC Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Ok. I have posted on here about my relationship before. However, things have changed for the worse. My GF just recently got an apartment. I helped her move in, pick the furniture. All the good stuff. Lately we have been seeing alot of each other. Getting under each other's skin, which I know is natural. She has a hard time expressing her emotions to me. She only wants to talk when she is ready, but the thing is, we have never talked. This morning, I brought it to her attention. It almost seemed like I was being ignored. She said she was listening, but I don't just want someone to listen, I want someone to respond. I finally got frustrated and took all my crap and walked out the door. I then came back and tried to talk to her. She acted the same. She mentioned needing space, which really hurts me. I love being around her, and I don't know what to do with myself now. So I have come to the conclusion that I will go NC until she contacts me. We have been involved for about 4 months. Things used to be so different. Now they are going into a weird territory of the relationship. Man, I need advice. I feel like crap right now. This just happened maybe an hour and a half ago. All I can think about is her. I don't want to break up. She even said she doesn't. I just don't know where this is going. Comments welcome. Thanks for listening.
Guest Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Hi Mike, I think you've done all you can do. The ball is in her court now. I would do the same thing as you plan on doing. Go NC and let her make the next contact. It's frustrating as hell I know expecially dealing with someone who avoids conflict. I wished I could say something more. You have a plan now so just stick with it. Best of luck and I hope things work out for you.
Strawbrryblonde Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 My boyfriend kind of did something like that to me before we broke up. We would talk about things but it seemed like me doing most of that talking, and it didn't sink in because we'd have to same problems all over again. We would set up times to go out to lunch and "talk" about everything...but he always avoided it saying we were having a good time and why ruin it by discussing our problems. A few weeks later, he broke up with me. So I think, although it's touchy, you need to either press to work the problems out...or discuss breaking up before she breaks YOUR heart. Maybe standing up for yourself will get your points across. I think going NC is a good idea, and hopefully she'll come around. I'm sorry your going through this! It sucks.
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