divineassault Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Once you stopped hooking up someone you broke up with, about how long did it take you to get over someone completely. By completely I mean that you didn't get that awful feeling in your stomach when you saw them and aside from physical lust, had no emotional desire to hook up? Longest time, shortest time, average time, etc.
Guest Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Once you stopped hooking up someone you broke up with, about how long did it take you to get over someone completely. By completely I mean that you didn't get that awful feeling in your stomach when you saw them and aside from physical lust, had no emotional desire to hook up? Longest time, shortest time, average time, etc. You will not find a straight answer to this one. For example, I had an EX wife of 12 years that took about a year to get over "completely". I had a g/f lover of 4 months that took nearly 3 years to completely get over. I offically borke up with a g/f lover in January and I think it could be one those long-time struggles to get over. Yikes!!!
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 Shortest time, about a month. Longest, 2 yrs and counting.
taylor Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 It's been 7 months since my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. We were only together 5 months. When I see him in social settings, I still get butterflies, weak knees and a lump in my throat. I still want him to hold me and kiss me. I still want to hear the sound of his voice and look into his big blue eyes. I still want him in my life. I dread the thought of seeing him with some other girl. Pathetic. My ex-boyfriend dated his previous girlfriend for 5 years and planned on marrying her, but they broke up instead. It's been 3 years now and he is still pining away for her. He dumped me to run back to her last summer. It didn't work out for them again. Now he looks more pathetic than I do. He is depressed and lonely. Said he feels like a divorced man - empty inside and putting one foot in front of the other. After 3 years, he hasn't gotten over her at all. :( I think at least two factors determine the length of time it takes to "get over" someone: 1. How deeply that person is embedded in our heart. This has nothing to do with length of the relationship, as another poster noted. It has more to do with depth of commitment we have to that person and the degree of meaning and purpose that person brings to our lives. 2. How much strength and determination we have to get on with our lives without them. I think at some point we, as dumpees, need to make a conscientious decision to release the dumper from our hearts, let go, move on, and never look back. The hard part is getting to that point. I think two things have to happen for us to reach that point: 1) We have to give up ALL HOPE that there will be a second chance and 2) We have to get tired of wasting our lives by living in the past and realize (I mean, really know) that we CAN and WILL have a happy future full of purpose and meaning without them.
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