Guest Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I want to appoligize upfront if this is long winded... I am a very, very happily married man of 4 years. My wife and I have been together for almost 11. We are in our early 30's and have no children between the two of us. Minus a few set backs years back we've had an FANTASTIC relationship. One that is built of what relationships are supposed to be about...passion, love, trust, and ALL the mutual respect you could ask for. Recently one of my wife's co-workers (resteraunt work) started hinting about wanting to come home with us. The girl is oppenly bi-sexual, and very attractive..and knows how to flirt. Originally these comments were completely blown off by my wife. The girl has since started approaching me on the idea...and my only response to her has been (it's not my decision to make). Now to make a short story long here is my issue----- My wife and I have recently started discussing the subject and ALL the clues are that my wife WANTS to do it. She has only gone as far as use the word "intrigue" but she refuses to ask for it to stop also. Our sex life has also improved since it came up..so it obviously turns her on. Knowing that my wife actually wants to do it....what steps should I take to make it happen and what kind of things should I do/say to try to limit any fall out or jealously problems that could follow...thanks for your help.
Moose Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 what steps should I take to make it happenNone! Run away, run away...think with the right head!and what kind of things should I do/say to try to limit any fall out or jealously problems that could follow...thanks for your helpAt least you said, "limit", that shows me you're well aware that there WILL be fallout and jealousy problems...... My advice, both you and your wife keep this as a fantasy ONLY!
EnigmasMuse Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I want to appoligize upfront if this is long winded... I am a very, very happily married man of 4 years. My wife and I have been together for almost 11. We are in our early 30's and have no children between the two of us. Minus a few set backs years back we've had an FANTASTIC relationship. One that is built of what relationships are supposed to be about...passion, love, trust, and ALL the mutual respect you could ask for. Recently one of my wife's co-workers (resteraunt work) started hinting about wanting to come home with us. The girl is oppenly bi-sexual, and very attractive..and knows how to flirt. Originally these comments were completely blown off by my wife. The girl has since started approaching me on the idea...and my only response to her has been (it's not my decision to make). Now to make a short story long here is my issue----- My wife and I have recently started discussing the subject and ALL the clues are that my wife WANTS to do it. She has only gone as far as use the word "intrigue" but she refuses to ask for it to stop also. Our sex life has also improved since it came up..so it obviously turns her on. Knowing that my wife actually wants to do it....what steps should I take to make it happen and what kind of things should I do/say to try to limit any fall out or jealously problems that could follow...thanks for your help. Most of the time these kinds of things do not turn out well at all. At some point, everyone involved will get hurt.
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