Bree Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 Hello this is my first post and i am in desperate need of advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months we plan on getting married soon, but the problem is his ex. Two weeks into our relationship we found out she was pregnant, now she has had her baby and approved for paternity testing. I knew this girl back in high school and we never got along, she has a little missing up there if you know what i mean or maybe it's just immaturity. She doesnt want him seeing the baby unless i'm not around and she wants him back. But I think that if he sees his son it shouldn't be by him staying over there for the day without me just to visit child. I know she wants him back and i just don't think its a good idea. Am i wrong for that? Also, i don't believe in treating children differently just because you don't like there mother, but at the same time i feel it will be hard for me not to resent the child. I love my fiance very much and I hope and pray this won't split us apart. Please help with coping........
Kenzo Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 This situation is unfortunate, but I think you may have posted in the wrong forum to recieve the proper advice. You should re-post in the dating, or getting married forums, as it seems he didn't cheat and get this women pregnant. Good luck in however you decide to handle the situation.
Ladyjane14 Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Your boyfriend should probably see an attorney, set up proper child support, and legalize his visitation. That way, he can pick the baby up and bring him home. The ex-girlfriend won't have 'boo' to say about it unless the child isn't cared for correctly. (I'm curious why you posted this in the OW forum. Is it that you consider his ex to be an OW?... or did your boyfriend cheat on her with you? 'Cause if he cheated on her, got her pregnant, and then walked... you'd probably do well to run for the hills. The story of The Fox and the Scorpion would apply.)
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