Sooo_confused Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I split up with my ex of 10 months about 3 months ago. We had a great relationship, never argued, spent alot of time together and got on like a house on fire. I went into my first year of college this year and my ex was going into this second (at colleges about 200 miles away from each other) At first things were great and I felt that going to different colleges had brought us closer together, then just before Christmas time we started to grow apart. I'd joined a lot of societies and Christmas was a very busy time for me. My ex does a course with a hectic workload and so he was busy with deadlines. We began to lose touch and hardly ever saw each other. Even though we both said it wasn't what we wanted we decided we should break up because of the long distance problems. Recently, I've dropped a few societies and have more time on my hands. At first I thought I was happy with the breakup and went on girly nights out with them trying to set me up with different guys. It was fun at first but now I've grown tired of it. I'm not interested in any other guys and my ex is all I think about (I know it sounds pathetic) I can't concentrate on my work and I'm not even having fun on my nights out anymore. To get over him I was even convinced into going on a date but I couldn't stand it because it wasn't a date with my ex. Recently I was speaking to a good friend of his at home and he said my ex has really strong feelings for me still and cant get over me. I'd love to give it another go and this time make it work. Problem is neither of us are the type to 'take control' of a situation and my ex is terrible at talking about his feelings to me. So even if his friend is telling the truth he'd never tell me how he felt. My quesion is, should I get in touch with him and tell him how I feel or just leave it? Thanks for any suggestions, sorry its so long!!
catrocks Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 You should definitely tell him how you feel. At the end of the day, if you don't you'll always wonder what would have happened if you had. If he wants to get back together then great, and if he doesn't then you can get closure and get on with your life. But do talk to him, you'll regret it if you don't (and the feedback from his friend sounds positive!). Good luck
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I think you should get in contact with your ex, let him know how you feel. If he doesn't reply then best thing to do is to try move on or keep your mind concerntrated on other things. If you don't try to get in contact then you don't know what could have been.
Island Girl Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Problem is neither of us are the type to 'take control' of a situation and my ex is terrible at talking about his feelings to me. So even if his friend is telling the truth he'd never tell me how he felt. So I guess you better, at least for the moment, become the type that takes control of the situation. If you even want to put it that way. Think about what you are risking - NOTHING. If you extend yourself to him and let him know how you feel and he does not feel the same way then you are still where you are now only without the nagging question. Then you could really move on without the "what ifs". If he does in fact feel the same way you are happy and moving on with the relationship you long for.
Sweetie2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 I agree with what everyone else has written. I mean, best cast, you both realize that your meant to be together, or at least be happy trying it again, and on the other side, you talk about how you feel, and at least feel better knowing that it wasn't meant to be. It's like catrocks said, if you don't, then you'll always wonder. I've been in a similar situation before, and I know what it's like to go to bed every night, and wonder why I didn't talk to him, why I didn't go to him, why why why? Especially with the feedback from the friend, it sounds like you have a chance! go for it!!
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