Rewind Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I started a new job a few weeks ago. Anyway the group I'm supposed to be supporting seem to all be friends, most take lunch together etc. Thing is for some strange reason they all seem to not initaite conversation with me except for one guy who is always asking me how I'm doing, if I need help with anything, has everyone been nice to me lol. Most of the guys seem kinda on the nerdy side though and one asked me out for lunch with them a few times during my first week and I went but he seemed really nervous when he asked me...but thing is they're friendly with another female coworker. so it's not like they're afraid of the female gender lol. I do catch them staring at me. I'm trying to be friendly and I'll always say good morning or be the first one to try to initate convo with them if I see them in the hall or something like that but really since I am new it would be nice if someone tried to get to know me. Also I'm supposed to be doing work for them supposdly but none of them give me anything to do. I then had the other girl they're friendly with questioning me if one of them had given me work..but why does she care. One of the guys I saw leaving one day and we walked together and we talked alot but once they're back in the office it's like they think I'm gonna bite or something. Maybe they dislike me i dunno..I just find it wierd bc I never had male coworkers act like this towards me.
Curmudgeon Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I do catch them staring at me. Or maybe you're just so drop-dead gorgeous you intimidate the hell out of them!
norajane Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 So take the initiative and ask each of them for assignments, explain to them what your role is supposed to be, ask them to lunch, ask the girl to lunch, etc. No need to wait for them to do it.
Trialbyfire Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 nj has some good suggestions. Also, people get nervous around new employees because they sometimes are fearful of being replaced. If you prove to be part of the team versus competition, they tend to feel more secure. A new job should be fun. Lots of new people and challenges. Relax and enjoy it.
elijahBailey Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I, too, get the feeling that you're a looker. The rest of the folks might be too intimidated to talk to you, especially if they're nerdy like you said.
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 Give it time. In my experience, men are alot of fun to work with, alot more laid back than women, and less catty. (Although some men can be just as catty as women too.) Be yourself, try to show that you're relaxed and comfortable, maybe that will help them feel more at ease with you.
Author Rewind Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 Give it time. In my experience, men are alot of fun to work with, alot more laid back than women, and less catty. (Although some men can be just as catty as women too.) Be yourself, try to show that you're relaxed and comfortable, maybe that will help them feel more at ease with you. Oh I agree..I got along with the male coworkers at my last job the women were the the catty ones. And yes I am attractive but at my old job it didnt seem the hinder the guys from interacting with me. I think tomorrow I will go over and ask them if they need help with anything. I just fell akward as well bc like I said I'm supposed to be part of their group, they all sit together and then there's me half way across the office by myself. I also want to prove myself so I don't want to spend half the day socializing. I took it upon myself to walk over to one of them yest(I've never heard him speak) since we were the only 2 there early. I initated the convo then today I don't get a hello nothing lol just looked at..I dunno
clynn Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Cute. They all sound really nervous. I'm sure the situation will warm up in time. They probably are all shy guys who take a while to get to know someone. I hope they start to realize they can rely on you to do some work!
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