hatchetman Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 I've worked with this young lady for about a year and a half now. Up until recently I've NEVER had any feelings for this girl or even thought about making any moves on her. It's especially complicated because we're musicians and we perform together. We do lots of shows and thus we're on the road a lot. I am the bandleader and she sings back up vocals. All together we're 10 people on tour and she's the only girl. I've always been conscious of this and so I've always kind of kept my distance from her to make sure she feels comfortable and that things remain professional. Over the last couple of weeks we've been talking more on the road and spending more time working together as she's singing back vocals on my new album. All of a sudden I've got a full fledged crush on this girl. I can't understand it! She's single right now and I'm dating other girls but not seeing anyone seriously. I normally like to stay single especially because I meet so many girls on tour, but all of a sudden I feel like I would be willing to scrap all of that to give it a shot with this girl. This is where I'm lost. I'm hesitant to make a move because I don't want to come of like a harasser and/or mess up the chemistry in my band (which is great). Plus I have no idea if she even likes me. Just from casual conversation she's said that I'm attractive but with girls that doesn't really mean anything. Does anyone have any advice on how i should proceed? Is this a formula for disaster or could I possibly make this work?
LN99 Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 Isn't it crazy sometimes how you can be around someone so much and not think twice about it and then suddenly it hits you like a ton of bricks---That... You LIKE them?! (I've been there.) Seeing as your relationship right now is a professional one, I would proceed with caution. Maybe feel her out first or make subtle moves so you don't totally make her run in the opposite direction. If you get good vibes, then possibly talk to her about it. IF you really are concerned about the nature of your relationship and how you are the leader and she is the backup singer, then maybe wait until after your album is recorded. Then see what happens? That way, if she is not interested, you don't have to face each other daily and deal with the awkwardness. Either way, just be subtle and play it cool. That way you won't come off too strong and ruin things if she is not interested.
I_am_a_DUMBO3000 Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 ...Woah. Now THAT is tough to answer. And I thought MY problem was bad. See, I really like this guy in a couple of my classes at school, I like him so much that sometimes I think I really love him. But he broke my heart twice. We've never dated, and he would probably never date me or even WANT to date me, but it's kind of complicated. I don't even know how the feeling started. I was just taking a walk one day and I couldn't stop thinking about him, and the next thing I know I'm madly in love with him. Anyway, he was really harsh today. I was really mad because of my sister today, so mad that I kicked a locker, and he and one of his friends were walking by at the exact same time. Now his friend thinks I'm crazy. So I told him it was family problems, and he siad he wouldn't ask me any more about it because of that, but then in another class he told the whole room why I was mad. But I still like him. I can't stop, no matter how hard I try. I'm so confused. What should I do?
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