will he be back?

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I was with my high school sweetheart for 7 years and 4 months.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]He dropped the bomb by saying he was going to move out.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I decided to kick him out sooner then he thought. I found out from e-mails he had written that he was interested in someone else. I questioned him about it but he said there was nothing going on. He said this was a coworker he talked to. A week later he told me that he was no longer in love with me and that he was feeling this way for sometime. He asked me not to call him or look for him ever. He did not want any contact with me at all.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I though back and everything seemed normal including him rushing to buy me something for Christmas. Thanksgiving was great too. The “I don’t love you” part took me by surprise. He said it had nothing to do with this other woman. I spoke to him a month later and he still denied it. Now its 2 months and he has finally said that this person is his girlfriend and that this just happened. He has told me that he is in love and that she is a million times better then I ever was. I was by his side for the worse moments in his life and I feel like I’ve given so much to just loose the man I love with the blink of an eye to someone who has done nothing. How can someone fall out of love so fast?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Please help…[/sIZE][/FONT]

[Carl321]

He probably did not fall out of love as fast as you think. Various issues must have built up over time in his mind--remember, guys are not as good at expressing their feelings, and for that reason he did not discuss them with you as they built up. Add to that the passion and infatuation of a new love interest, and that probably explains why he is saying these things and acting this way.

 

In response to your question, it appears pretty clear to me at least that this guy is not coming back. I am sure he still has feelings for you, but he is not really dealing with those and the loss of you from his life because he is probably consumed with this new girl. That passion (as is the case with every other relationship in human history) will eventually fade, and then he will more fully reflect upon his feelings for you and what he has lost. You need to sever all contact with him immediately--there is nothing he can say or do right now that is going to make you feel any better. You can do not anything to get him back. He might come back to you someday if things don't work out with this new girl, but hopefully by that time you will have moved on and met a guy that will treat you right. Forget about this dude and move on.

[Cossette4]

Hey I feel for you...I am in a similar situation. Dated 5 years, breakup happened out of the blue and he acted like he was completely over me after being head over heels in love with me, two weeks later he starts dating (and living together) with a girl he met at work who is the epitome of skanky trailer trashdom.

 

There's no rhyme or reason to their madness. It is unexplainable how you can be with someone for so many years and then all of a sudden they are someone else, someone who doesn't want to be with you but another girl. Our jaws drop open because we can't figure out how/why it's happening.

 

But it is. It's happened to SO many people on this board. I know I've responded to at least a dozen posts in the past few months that caught my eye b/c they have the same format--long-term relationship comes to sudden end, ex suddenly with someone else.

 

The best way to look at it is IT'S NOT YOU. The problem clearly lies with the ex. It disturbs us because THEY are acting screwed up. Is it normal to end long relationships in a blink of an eye and show no emotion? No.

Is it normal to jump into serious relationships with other people in a matter of weeks? No. And if it was going on in his head for awhile, is it normal to treat you like everything is great and he's in love while behind your back he is secretly lining up someone new? No.

 

We know we would NEVER do those things, so they hurt and don't make sense when they are done to us. For example, there were times over the years that I considered breaking up with my ex, but I could NEVER have imagined replacing him with someone else. My eyes still didn't notice anyone else, even when I was frustrated with him. And just the thought of telling him "Oh sorry I'm with this guy now" 2 weeks later makes me sick--I would never want to put someone through that kind of pain.

 

These people are cowards. They can't be alone. They need to be in relationships to validate themselves.

 

He has told me that he is in love and that she is a million times better then I ever was.

 

You have to analyze these comments in a different way. First of all, look at the level of immaturity going on here. What guy would tell his girlfriend of 7 years that some girl he's known for 60 days is "a million times better" than her? Even when people do find relationships more fulfilling than others, they don't call up their ex and say "You suck! This new person is soooo much better than you!" He's clearly bitter at something.

 

And secondly, think about the "in love" he's talking about. Because it can't be the "in love" he had with you during those 7 years. He's "in lust" because it's a new relationship with new exciting feelings. Everyone has a ball in those first few months and he wants to naively believe it's going to be like this with the new girl for the next 7 years.

 

Let him believe it. He can find out for himself the grass isn't always greener, and by the time he does, his beloved grass of 7 years will have uprooted herself elsewhere.

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Thank you so much for all your help and I’m sorry that you’re going through this as well.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I have another situation. That Bitch posted one of my sexy pictures on the comment section of my ex-boyfriend’s Myspace page. I wrote her an e-mail telling her to stop using my pictures for her stupid games and that there is absolutely no competition. She responded by saying that there is competition because she’s the one with the ring on her finger.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]By the way, the ring is a stupid heart ring that he gave her for valentines (I read his myspace) that’s how I know. On her response she added, P.S. “was making fun of how big of a slut you were”. I then responded to her e-mail in a very childish and mean way. [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]She send a copy of my e-mail to my ex and made it sound as if I send it out of the blue and made me look like the bitch. He apologized to her for all the “headaches” I’ve caused her. He used words towards me as “she devil” and “cunt whore”. By the way, this bitch is a 27-year-old restaurant manager at a very well know hotel. I want to know why does he talk so bad about me if I never did anything at all to hurt him. He hates me so much now when just 3 months ago we were as happy as can be. He changed his phone number and blocked me from sending e-mails to him and asked her to do the same.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]What do you think?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Thank you so much for all your help and I’m sorry that you’re going through this as well.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I have another situation. That Bitch posted one of my sexy pictures on the comment section of my ex-boyfriend’s Myspace page. I wrote her an e-mail telling her to stop using my pictures for her stupid games and that there is absolutely no competition. She responded by saying that there is competition because she’s the one with the ring on her finger.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]By the way, the ring is a stupid heart ring that he gave her for valentines (I read his myspace) that’s how I know. On her response she added, P.S. “was making fun of how big of a slut you were”. I then responded to her e-mail in a very childish and mean way. [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]She send a copy of my e-mail to my ex and made it sound as if I send it out of the blue and made me look like the bitch. He apologized to her for all the “headaches” I’ve caused her. He used words towards me as “she devil” and “cunt whore”. By the way, this bitch is a 27-year-old restaurant manager at a very well know hotel. I want to know why does he talk so bad about me if I never did anything at all to hurt him. He hates me so much now when just 3 months ago we were as happy as can be. He changed his phone number and blocked me from sending e-mails to him and asked her to do the same.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]What do you think?[/sIZE][/FONT]

[oppath]

Ok, this is tough. First, try to refrain from looking at his myspace. That will set you back. Now, you did do it, and I feel you are right in confronting his new girlfriend about posting photos of you, but at the same time, you can't act rational right now. You can't. You are too hurt. Anything you say won't help because even if you could calmly request her not to post photos of you, you aren't capable of handling her reaction right now.

 

I too said some things to my ex that were in total reaction to HER! We have mutual friends. Maintaining them can't happen. There is too much drama. I'm an ******* to all of them because I went psycho when I politely told her "I can't be your friend right now, it's too soon" in response to an email invite, and her response was "ok. let me know if you'd like to be friends with benefits." Yeah, I went off. I said some appropriate things that she needed to hear, but you know what, I was so wounded and irrational it was caustic too. Now I'm the ass.

 

Let it go. As difficult as this is for you, let it go. Don't look at his myspace. Don't contact him. Don't contact her. You won't get resolution from him. Nothing he can say to you will make you feel better about the situation. It can only make you feel worse.

 

Everything you do is backfiring. You have good intentions, but because you are hurt, and you don't get the response you desire, it blows up. Walk away. Just walk away.

 

I've learned this myself. There is nothing I can do to make amends. Trying to makes things worse. I'm trying to not for closure from my ex, but to maintain mutual friendships. It has blown up in my face.

 

Walk away from this man entirely. Cut him from your life and anything associated with him. You know you need to do this. Just do it.

[Cossette4]

Oppath is right. DON'T look at the Myspace. You can go back through one of my earlier posts (I believe the title was something along the lines of "Are You Kidding Me? I Hate Life") to see how Myspace is basically the devil in html format.

 

Again, I'd advise you to really analyze what's going on here. His new girlfriend is 27 years old and yet she acts like she's in junior high, digging up a picture of you, posting it, and making fun of you. Are you serious? Who does that? Immature people. Insecure people. Intimidated people. That's who. You've got 7 years on her and she's shaking in her boots, so she's doing whatever she can to smear you and get you out of his mind.

 

Your ex tells her it's YOU that's causing the "headaches," but this is actually HIS fault. Most people don't end 7 year relationships and jump into new ones right away. Usually, people take time between serious relationships, and the new girlfriend and the ex girlfriend don't have to see each other as arch enemies. He made it this way, not you.

 

Unfortunately, you have to be the bigger person and not show them that it gets to you. If you fight with her and say caddy things to her, you stoop to her level and end up embarrassing yourself. Get revenge BY BEING CLASSY. It's the best revenge medicine there is.

[oppath]

Your ex tells her it's YOU that's causing the "headaches," but this is actually HIS fault. Most people don't end 7 year relationships and jump into new ones right away. Usually, people take time between serious relationships, and the new girlfriend and the ex girlfriend don't have to see each other as arch enemies. He made it this way, not you.

 

Agreed. Same with my ex. The drama is HER FAULT. She did the damage. I reacted to her damage. His new gf is very immature. It is so tough to refrain from stooping to another's level when they hurt you.

 

Is this guy coming back?!? No. More importantly, you do not want him back. You don't. Live a wonderful life. That is the best revenge, and if you do that, you will attract someone better for you.

[taylor]

I agree with Carl. There had to be some issues between the two of you that built up over time. Instead of dealing with these issues, or resolving them, your boyfriend chose to walk away from them.

 

Is he really in love with this new girlfriend? Who knows. Only time will tell.

 

Is she "one million times better than you"? Of course not.

 

Are you a "she devil"? Of course not.

 

But these comment leads me to believe he resents you for some things that might have happened in your relationship. I don't think your relationship was on solid ground before the breakup and I don't think his decision to walk away was sudden or spontaneous. There had to be some problems, some issues, some friction between the two of you that led up to his decision to break up with you.

 

It really doesn't matter now what those issues were because clearly the relationship is over and he is not coming back.

 

I agree with Oppath. You do need to disassociate yourself from your ex and his new girlfriend. In fact, run as far away from both of them as you can. You don't need the drama. It serves no purpose.

 

The last thing you want to do is get into a a major "cat fight" with his new girlfriend, even though she is doing everything in her power to provoke one with you. I, too, would be angry if someone posted pictures of me on myspace without my consent. That was an immature, disrespectful and spiteful thing to do. But what's done is done. Let it go.

 

Like Cossette said, you don't want to stoop to her level. You are better than that.

 

Don't retaliate. Don't play games with her. Take the high road and ignore her provocations. You end the "battle" if you choose not to "fight."

 

And why would you want to "fight" with her anyways? She isn't worth your time and energy, is she?

 

Two other things to consider:

 

The only thing you will accomplish by fighting with your ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend is giving your ex-boyfriend a HUGE ego boost. WOW!! What guy wouldn't want two women fighting over him while he just sits back and watches the drama???!! Pass the popcorn!....Do you really want to give him that satisfaction?

 

Why do you think this girl considers you "the competition"? Because she is not 100 percent sure he is committed to her. You are a threat to her because she is not convinced that he is devoted to her. Think about it. If she felt completely secure in her relationship with him, she would not give you a second thought.

 

His new girlfriend sounds like a lot of trouble. Let him have her. He will probably see her true colors once he is no longer blinded by love...er...I mean.. lust.

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]There were actually some problems between us. He would come home often at 6:ooAM from hanging out with his buddies. He also didn’t do much around the house so I would always bitch and complain. He hated that I did that but that would be the only thing that would make me feel better. I hated him disrespecting our apartment by coming in at any time he wanted. He told me that I was being controlling and that I didn’t want him to b with his friends. You are right about him walking away from the problem. I asked him to give us one more chance but he said no “we can not drag this out”. I was never given a chance to fix our relationship. I gave him plenty of chances when he messed up. [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]He forgot so fast how much in love we both were at some point. Nothing makes sense to me. Even though there were some issues I don’t think this is a reason to drop everything and 2 months later fall in love and move in with this person. I just think that this had been going on for some time. I just never realized it. I was cheated on and then dropped like a peace of ****.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]There were actually some problems between us. He would come home often at 6:00AM from hanging out with his buddies. He also didn’t do much around the house so I would always bitch and complain. He hated that I did that but that would be the only thing that would make me feel better. I hated him disrespecting our apartment by coming in at any time he wanted. He told me that I was being controlling and that I didn’t want him to b with his friends. You are right about him walking away from the problem. I asked him to give us one more chance but he said no “we can not drag this out”. I was never given a chance to fix our relationship. I gave him plenty of chances when he messed up. [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]He forgot so fast how much in love we both were at some point. Nothing makes sense to me. Even though there were some issues I don’t think this is a reason to drop everything and 2 months later fall in love and move in with this person. I just think that this had been going on for some time. I just never realized it. I was cheated on and then dropped like a peace of ****.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[taylor]

skper,

 

I am so sorry you are hurting.

 

Nothing is worse than feeling betrayed by someone you loved and trusted with all your heart.

 

But the sooner you start to realize you deserve more than what your boyfriend was willing to offer you, the sooner you will start to heal.

 

It sounds as if your boyfriend was not as "committed" to the relationship as you wanted or needed him to be.

 

How old are the two of you, anyways?

 

Guys of all ages like to hang out with their buddies. I think as they get older, that desire diminishes. But coming in at 6 a.m. on a regular basis sounds excessive.

 

I don't think your boyfriend is ready to be "tied down."

 

If he is not interested in settling down or is not ready to settle down, there is nothing you could have done about it. That is out of your control. You can't "force" him to settle down. He has to want to.

 

There isn't anything you could have done to "fix" the relationship. Nagging him probably worsened the situation and helped drive him farther away from you but it did not cause the breakup. Nagging is just a sign or symptom that another problem exists.

 

It's time to turn your focus away from him and onto yourself. You have a lot of healing to do.

 

First and foremost, try to hold on to your self-esteem. Remember, you broke up because you want different things. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person.

 

Take care. Post often. We are here for you.

[Cossette4]

Even though there were some issues I don’t think this is a reason to drop everything and 2 months later fall in love and move in with this person. I just think that this had been going on for some time. I just never realized it. I was cheated on and then dropped like a peace of ****.

 

You may never really know exactly what happened. That's the boat I am in. There are days where I say, "OMG did he cheat on me?!?!" Then there are days where I say, "Ok...there's no evidence that he cheated...but OMG did he plan to leave me for another girl?!?!" Then there are days where I say, "Ok...maybe he didn't cheat, didn't leave me for another girl, and is just rebounding with the first person that crossed his path because he is trying to fill the void."

 

I may never know. But we both shouldn't dwell on exactly HOW their new relationships started because that's not really important. What's important to remember is that there was something "broken" in the relationships we had with them, and like Taylor said, our exes chose to walk away instead of fix what was broken.

 

Whether they "walked away" to another girl while they were still with us or immediately after us is really irrelevant--they are "walk-awayers," not the kind of people we want in our lives.

 

Think of it this way--they are in their current relationships as a result of running away from their problems in a previous relationship. Think of what it would be like to be their new girlfriend, knowing some guy is with you because he's trying to get away from something else!

[guin_girl]

Oppath is right. DON'T look at the Myspace. You can go back through one of my earlier posts (I believe the title was something along the lines of "Are You Kidding Me? I Hate Life") to see how Myspace is basically the devil in html format.

 

Yea, I hate myspace too... although that's how I found out that we had "broken up" since he didn't have the cajones to tell me... but there was the new chick right on there... all happy and smiley... deep down, I know she will be the next one, looking to his myspace to see her replacement when he disappears from her life too...

 

boycott myspace...

 

nothing you will find on there will help you, and all it's doing is feeding the fire and she's getting you to react, playing into her game... be strong and let go... it will hurt, but you will heal faster if you let go.

[MoonGirl]

7 years is a long time...he may be back when he is done with his current girl. But will you take him back??? That is your decision. A good read is "Why men love B*tches" and "Why men marry B*tches". Very nice books to help you build your self-esteem and dating know-how. Lol. For now, I'd go complete NC with him. If he doesn't know what you're up to, he'll certainly wonder! Don't beg, plead, guilt trip...nothing. Just do things that you find enjoyable!

[skper138]

Ok, I know you guys are telling me not go through his myspace or anything that has to do with him but i have a good one to tell you. I checked his e-mail and found out that he posted on Craigslist under [FONT=Times New Roman]Casual encounters the following, "I [/FONT]was looking for a girl to help me make my trip one to remember So if your interested in a good time email me back asap with your number and/or pic....hope to see you soon". when i read that i could not help but laugh. he says he's in love with this B but then he is doing this? I have to know what you think...by the way he is away in another state.

[taylor]

skper,

 

I repeat, he is not ready to settle down.

 

You were high school sweethearts and together 7 years? Perhaps he feels he "missed out" and has some wild oats to sow.

 

He's posting an e-mail on Craigslist under casual encounters. That tells you what he wants - casual encounters - not a serious relationship.

 

The OW? Again, I repeat, she is not convinced he is committed to her, therefore sees you as a threat. And, their connection is probably based on LUST, not love.

 

She will probably be one of many he will lust after.

 

He's looking for a good time....casual... Again, he has some wild oats to sow.

[Cossette4]

Well that is kinda funny that you found that...it should ease your mind a little and prevent you from telling yourself they are soooo in love and happy.

 

Back when my friends and I were scouring the internet to try to find out about the "new girl," we ran into some website and she posted pictures of herself totally shirtless, with her boobs wrapped in bubble wrap and duct tape, provocatively posing. They are hilarious. Here I was dreading that she was some beautiful, classy supermodel nobel prize winner, and then I find these pictures of this unattractive, flabby skank on a public website. Under the pics, she wrote all about her attraction for girls and the places where she likes to girl-watch (Yeah, she's bi by the way...) Internet users could rate the pictures and I think her rating turned out to be a 6.1 (hehe), and you've gotta keep in mind the kinds of people who are visiting this site to rate skanky pictures...That's gotta inflate the number somewhat

 

One of our mutual friends (who used to be his best friend) showed my ex the pics and he turned pale and his jaw dropped open (because I honestly think he is so vulnerable he didn't even realize what he got himself into and the kind of girl he chose). He left his former best friend's house and hasn't been back or called him since (and this was in September!!)

 

So I have a question for you--is this kind of behavior (your ex's posting on Craigslist for a "casual encounter") totally creeping you out because he was never that kind of guy for the past 7 years, or was he known to do stuff like that while you were still together?

[MoonGirl]

Ok, I know you guys are telling me not go through his myspace or anything that has to do with him but i have a good one to tell you. I checked his e-mail and found out that he posted on Craigslist under [FONT=Times New Roman]Casual encounters the following, "I [/FONT]was looking for a girl to help me make my trip one to remember So if your interested in a good time email me back asap with your number and/or pic....hope to see you soon". when i read that i could not help but laugh. he says he's in love with this B but then he is doing this? I have to know what you think...by the way he is away in another state.

 

 

Yeah, your guy has gone wild...let him go for now or he will resent you for trying to hold onto him. He needs his space.

 

Will he be back? Maybe. 7 years is a long time to be with someone. But, you probably won't want him back if he comes around again. When I was 18-20 I dated a guy I was madly in love with. He left me for other girls (yes, plural) and I thought I would never love anyone else ever again. I have since moved on, and my ex still calls me to see what I'm up to.

[Cossette4]

Moon, how long did it take you to move on completely and how long did it take before your ex came crawling back to check up on you? This is like, my dream situation. I want so bad to get over this, find someone so much better than him, and then have him realize the grass isn't always greener and I get "The Phone Call."

 

Sometimes I feel like it'll never happen (it's been almost 8 months since the breakup and since he started dating (and living with) his new girlfriend...we were together 5 years).

 

I know I'll be okay even if he never ever comes crawling back, but it would really be such "justice" for me if he did. It would feel so good to be able to say NO, ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. YOU BLEW IT.

 

When he broke up with me (OVER THE PHONE...yeah, really respectful after 5 years, huh?) I said to him, "You will regret this" and "If you do this, it's over for good because I'd never take you back after you treated me so disrespectfully." And he was just kinda like, "Ok whatever...I'll take my chances." It'd be sooooo awesome to have my statements come bite him in the a:bunny: !

[MoonGirl]

It took awhile for him to come crawling back (I think about 18 months). I think that as long as he knew I was available and pining away for him, he wasn't too interested in me. When I met a GORGEOUS new boyfriend and appeared to be very confident and happy (and over him completely), that's when he started taking an interest in me again. But I really do have to tell you, I no longer cared about him wanting me back. I guess that meant I was totally over him because, like you, I initially had fantasies of him crawling back to me.

 

I suggest reading the book "Why Men Love B*tches," especially if you're dealing with this type of guy. The recommendations in the book will help you appear confident, attractive, and indifferent toward him (even if you're not).

[skper138]

I have been doing so good so far for the past 3 weeks. I no longer have felt the need to call him or see him. Last night as I was walking home i started thinking on how good of a women i am and how bad i was treaded by him. Since he came back from visiting his sister yesturday I started thinking on how he was so happy to see me everytime we both came back from a trip. I though of how he was probably acting the same way with her. I got home and started crying and at the same time telling myself that i shouldn't be feeling this way. I kept on telling myself on how this relationship has been over for almost 3 months. I cried for about ten minutes, wiped my face, and talked to my sister for about 2 hours. Thank god i didn't cry for long or got deeper in my thought because everytime i do, i end up feeling down for a week. I know that even though we had some issues; i am not the one to be blaimed for such bad breakup.

[Cossette4]

Skper, don't worry--everyone has those nights. I've probably had 50 of "those nights" in the last 8 months. There's going to be a movie, a song, a holiday, an anniversary, another couple walking down the street, something that triggers an inside joke, a ton of stuff--it's going to get you down.

 

But look on the positive side--once you go through it once, it can't be as bad the second time. Like the next time you know he's coming home from a trip, you will have already been through the emotions of what that feels like now and soon it won't even affect you.

 

We used to listen and sing along to the Rent soundtrack (broadway musical) and it's one of my favorite things to sing outloud on car trips. So the first time I took a long trip after the breakup, those songs just pissed me off and made me sad because I'd think, "Oh here's the part he liked...here's the song he sang..." But I've listened to them so much in the past 8 months that they are now just MINE again.

 

I've also been through his birthday (knowing SHE probably got him presents), my birthday (no presents from him for the first time in 5 years), Christmas (huge holiday for both of us and our families), New Year's (SHE'S probably kissing him at midnight), Valentine's Day (Yep.), and now St. Patrick's Day (which would have been our 6 year anniversary.)

 

I had bad nights each night, and I'll probably have one next Saturday, but NEXT YEAR, these holidays won't stir me up as much as they did this year, because I'll have already been through it.

 

You have to go through the bad to get to the good.

[skper138]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Today I am having a bad day. I can’t stop thing about him today.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I want him back so bad. Everything was over so fast. All my dreams collapsed right in front of me in a blink of an eye. I’m at work and feel like crying my eyes out. [/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I may be feeling like this because I had a dream of that B e-mailing me saying I’m sorry for what happened. She said more **** in my dream but I can’t remember. [/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I want him so bad to be unhappy and hurt the way I’ve been hurting for the past 3 months. [/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I would like to find a way on getting them back for what they did. They both completely took me for an idiot. I was the biggest joke for both of them. Sometimes I feel like jumping off a window so I don’t have to live days like these. As much as I try to understand how a person can be so cruel and **** all over someone that loves them and has given and done so much for them, I can’t. I would have never done that to him. He said many times that she was not the reason of him leaving but deep in my heart I know she is. If she wouldn't be the reason of our break up then they wouldn’t be together now.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I want to see them unhappy and regret everything they’ve done. I want them to pay for each and every tear I’ve cried, for every pain I’ve had on my chest, for every pound I’ve lost since then, for every headache I’ve suffered, for every bad thought, and for all those sleepless nights I’ve had. Please help me cope with such pain in my heart.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[MoonGirl]

Oh gosh, sweetie. You are so angry and so hurt. Please see a therapist.

First of all, why in the world would you want this guy back? he has hurt you, lied to you, and left you for another girl. YOU DESERVE BETTER and there are better men to be had.

 

Don't do anything to get back at them. It won't make you feel any better and it surely won't make your ex think very highly of you. Take this break up (or pretend to) like a mature woman...do things for yourself, look nice, smell nice, and be nice. Eventually your self-esteem will improve, and you will forget all about this guy.