jmmm Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 my b/f wants to go away camping for a few days or a week by himself which is fine, no problem. He says there is no service where he is going so basically no talking for all those days..for some reason i feel myself getting worried like what if he leaves camping after a few days and planned to meet a friend in vegas or some other place where he can party and basically not speak to me for a few days. I feel he is gonna go camping--he was talking about it for awhile..but i feel worried about him possibly making other plans, not telling me b/c i wouldnt be ok with him going to like vegas without me to see strippers etc etc...is this something i should even be bothered worrying about? My friend is like if he comes home clean shaven etc etc he is lying but i may not even see him directly when he comes home b/c i dont live with him.
stillafool Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Don't worry yourself about it. If something is happening it will reveal itself. I would be extra sweet and loving just before he leaves so if he is up to something he will feel like a piece of sh_t! Give him sweet memories of you to take with him.
TheDC Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Well I hate to say it but you are going to have to work on yourself a little. If he is going to cheat or do something that you don't like then there isn't a damn thing you can do to stop it so you might as well trust him. If you can't trust him or you are getting all paranoid then your relationship is doomed and you might as well leave him. Not because he is a cheater but because you obviously can't handle a relationship.
Author jmmm Posted March 6, 2007 Author Posted March 6, 2007 so you wouldnt be concerned with it? he said he said no to a friend who wanted to go away some upcoming weekend..and i couldnt help but wonder hmm..maybe he told his friend well my g/f thinks i will be camping for a week..i can leave after a few days and meet you..it seems like a lot of work though doesnt it? leave from some vacant area(camping)..go home, catch a plane ride and go to another area.
stillafool Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Okay, I can tell you are spending too much time analyzing his every word. Just relax. Think about what you want to do while he's away. See your friends, movies, go out, clean up but try not to spend all your time thinking about him. As you can see he's still living his life even though he is in a relationship and you need to do the same.
littlepiggy1 Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Maybe your boyfriend is a secret agent who is using this camping trip as an excuse to fight crime overseas. You never know...
TheDC Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 so you wouldnt be concerned with it? My GF goes on camping trip by herself and sometimes with others, even guys. I have never once worried that she was sneaking off somewhere else or cheating on me. It doesn't even cross my mind. To obsess over these sort of things is not healthy and the relationship will not be healthy either if you do. If you let these sort of irrational thoughts get the best of you then you'll never be truly happy. You are going to have to take him at his word and learn to trust him. If you start distrusting him soon you'll be acting on those thoughts and you'll eventually push him away. It will become a self fulfilling prophecy. You'll have driven him away and achieved that which you have always feared.
Author jmmm Posted March 7, 2007 Author Posted March 7, 2007 thanks for the advice. i havent spent too much time thinking about it nor have i brought it up in any way, shape, or form to my s/o. wouldn't that seem like a time consuming lie though? i really do believe he will go camping so if he does wouldn't it be annoying to go there for 4 days or even 3..then drive to go get a plane and then meet friends for like 3 days..and plus he will have to bring more clothes with him then if he goes to some other place besides camping and he says he doesnt want to go with much of anything.
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