JC1 Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 My girlfriend and I have dated for 2 years and 2 1/2 months. For the first year, everything was great..She treated me like a king, and i treated her like a queen. After about a year, though, i started taking her and all the wonderful things she did for me( making me things, etc) for granted. Finally March 3, 2007, she ended our relationship,saying that she just needed time to be single... She dosent want me to call her or text her, and she has already been out with friends---3 girls(herself included) and 3 guys....She still says she loves me, but says she is still mad becuase of the way i treated her....See, everytime we would argue, i would promise to change and treat her better, and had all intentions of doing so, but in the back of my mind, i would always think " well, if i mess up, she will still be here" . But now i know differently and have truly changed my mindset, but she wont believe me...( with good reason)...is there any hope for reconcilliation????
shockandawed Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 JC, Sorry you are dealing with a break up, we all know what it is like. Your story is very similar to many of ours. You probably did take things for granted with her. But guess what? I am sure if you think about the relationship, she probably took things for granted as well. When my ex-fiance broke up with me after 2.5 years, she threw all kinds of excuses at me. And all I did was bang my head into the wall trying to figure out why those things mattered. They didn't. She went immediately into another relationship and used that crap to make herself feel better. So what you took some things for granted? Is that worth throwing out a 2+ year relationship? How did she communicate to you what she desired? Did she work with you to make things better? Don't know your situation, but it sounds like a defense mechanism to me. Is there a chance for reconcilliation? Again, who knows, but the only way you can find out is to go complete N/C. Give her a chance to miss you, clear her head and realize what you had together. It will also give you the chance to do the same. I can assure you, calling, begging, trying to rationalize will do nothing but drive her farther away. Best of luck to you.
Author JC1 Posted March 6, 2007 Author Posted March 6, 2007 shockandawed, i appriciate your comments..but in her defense, she didnt break up with me due to the fact that i took things for granted.. She was mostly upset that i tried to control her and limit her freedom....and the fact that i got upset with her over some of the stupidest things imaginable...i mean i dont blame her for the breakup..i just pray everyday that i have one more chance to show her that i have truly changed this time...
VideoKid Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Its really just a learning experience. I always promised one of my ex's I'd change but didn't put in much effort because I thought he'd always be there - but it didn't work like that, he left. You think you've changed but you'll just slip back into old habits. I know how hard it is to get over a long relationship, I'm healing from a split after 2 years but its probably just best to let her go. Next time you'll know better.
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