Thank God I walked Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 We broke up in October because he cheated on me. we were engaged and lived together for 2 years. Well, I was really sad at first but now I am feeling great. The problem is, he isn't. He still calls me all the time and I know it sounds crazy but I feel really bad for him. I answer when he calls and I even console him when he is having a hard time. I know, I know... I shouldn't do that. I just don't know how to stop. I don't want him back AT ALL... I just want him to be ok. I have been dating recently and I don't have the heart to tell him because it will break his heart. Can one of you people put some sense in my head???????
jgaz3124 Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 I think it is very big of you to still talk to him and even be nice to him after what he did. But the problem is, is that if you keep talking to him it will never really let him move on. You seem to still care about him so do this one thing for him and just stop all contact. It is the only way he will move on. Don't worry I know it will really hurt him at first but he will be ok and he can always seek help with his emotions if he finds that he can't handle them. Just remember he is a grown man, and he made the choice to cheat and he can make the choice to move on from his mistake. Good luck!!
oppath Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 Ok, in these situations, since his contact is not really detrimental to your life, I'd suggest talking to him about it before cutting off contact. Tell him you have moved on but feel bad that he is struggling, and that while you care you feel him being in contact with you is preventing him from moving on. If he's already depressed and not coping well, just dropping off the earth might have a negative reaction.
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