krzr Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 great relationship for 3 years but been broken up for 7 months now she was younger 23 and just needs to experience more but dosnt seem to want to let go. everytime i do no contact she finds a way to crack me but on xmas/her bday we did gifts and i got drunk called her some names and yelled at her cause i think i found out she had a new boyfriend so u would figure that would be it because she said she didnt want to talk for awaile but she still shoots some txts over asking about my dads health or letting me know shes xferring stores so i can go to her mall and not have to avoid running into her. so i reply hes doing good and thx for the heads up. she replies i quit smoking but ill light up with him! and i miss him and the rest of u guys (basically shes missing me cool whatever). i send her a txt letting her know not to txt me about my dad or her work or anything and that i had tossed all her stuff away because i didnt want to be reminded about what was missing in my life. her reply was i still have everything because i didnt intend on not getting back together and takes a pic of the bracelet i bought her for anniversary and sends it over saying i still wear this. i didnt reply to any of that but then before vday i cracked and sent over a txt letting her know i had been seeing her in my dreams and that i thought she was beautiful and i had been missing her but that it was just part of the process of letting go. she replied how strange i have been thinking about u and missing u alot too. so what do u think shes got a new guy and even after the xmas fiasco she still tries contacting me she just trying to keep me on the backburner i told her why do u even bother talking to me u didnt do that with any of ur old exes just shut them out her reply was i didnt intend on not getting back together is why i dont shut u out.
Icantletgo Posted March 6, 2007 Posted March 6, 2007 My ex was doing the exact same thing. They want both. They want to keep you cause they are or were in love w/ you and a part of them doesn't wanna let that go. But they also wanna date other people..because they are young and may not think they are ready to settle down yet. So they string you along...just enough so that you can't move on and just enough so that you dont want to let go either...just in case..just in case she decides to go back to you, she will be confident you will want her. What did i do in my case? i finally told him to leave me alone last night. They are being selfish. they love you or did love you..but the truth is..when you love someone, they wouldn't risk losing you they wouldn't want to be w/ anyone else. It's not fair to YOU and it's not fair to their current beau. I wish you the best of luck. NC sucks but maybe it'll show her that you are strong enough to move on..you can't play games anymore.
Author krzr Posted March 6, 2007 Author Posted March 6, 2007 ya im doing no contact now i think the longest out of the 7 months i have been able to keep her out is a month to two months then i crack. im feeling strong now and just see it for what it is not wanting to waste anymore energy on a person that is not there for me.
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