StrongArt Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Ok here is the story in a nutshell. I met a gal on-line and flew her fom SC to California. We got along well and after a few trips she moved in with me. That was seven years ago and while the first few years were relatively good there were still problems that brought us to the brink of breaking up. Well the last 2 years have been horrible and I have asked to leave many times. In the past she threatend to inform both the legal authorities as well as employer and everyone that would listen if i proceeded with any action against her. All of the activity that was used to counter my actions against her have been neutralized and i have asked for her to leave. Once again she simply refuses to accept this as fact and has done nothing. We don't speak, live in seperate rooms, and have nothing but anomosity going for us. She has never worked, does little to nothing around here, she doesn't cook or clean, do wash, iron or offer to do such things. Her attitude can be summed up by saying since i invited her to california, she is my responsibility, pure and simple. Now keep in mind that she was previously married, has 3 children who are now 24,20 and 17 and were removed by court order just before moving here. Well 2 were the natural father of the youngest took her in. She has been afraid to fly home because she knows i would cancel the round trip ticket as soon as she hits the tarmac , or that i would move while she was gone and leave no forwarding address. Both true enough but never got the opportunity. What i want to know is what do i have to do to have her removed from my property and my life. I have offered her cash and a ticket home as well as shipping her property back east but even this has been ignored. Just last night she threatened to pay me back in spades if i pursue her leaving. To give you an idea of what lengths she will go to in spying on me, she will stand outside in the freezing weather in the pitch dark and using binoculars read my postings and conversation through the venetian blinds.. there is no doubt that she is emotionally ill, so what can i do to protect myself and get her out of my life. I've been told i cant physically remove her or her things since she has residency her, but she is not on my lease so do i follow eviction process or what. What worries me is that she swears she will ruin my life and contact every person i know and continue to vent for ever. She feels that i have never loved her since i am now asking to split up and she will pay me back for ruining the last seven years. there are times i think she is capable of worst things. she says she will give new meaning to stalking if i force her out!! so any worthwhile suggestions on how to protect myself and my possessins from this sad and pathetic woman? one other note, she is wanted from the state of SC for being a deadbeat parent. i have received mail and numerous calls from child support enforcement that were ignored by her over the years. I recently contacted them and actually spoke to the investigator who told me point blank that there were warrants out for her arrest and i told him my delemna and offered to work with them about picking her up and and after a couple of conversations have not been able to get a call back after countless calls.with that in mind now what can i do?
LakesideDream Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Not as difficult as you make it out to be. Assuming you owned or leased the house before she "moved in".. also assuming that what you say, ie. that she hasn't contributed financially to the household over the seven years your "out" is simple. Document everything, every threat, etc. Find yourself a lawyer and begin eviction proceedings, with a restraining order to follow as soon as she crosses the threshold. Contact your local police and find out if the warrants for her arrest include an extradition demand. Some states are to cheap to pay to bring their dead beat parents home to face the music. Some aren't. As to her retaliating by contacting friends, business associates etc. That's the price you pay for shacking up with a psyco for seven years.
stockmos Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 When you know she is going out (which she must sometimes) throw all her things out on the doorstep and change all the locks. Get a friend to stay in the house under strict instructions not to admit her. Go away for four weeks.
Lezbean Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 You go to your local court house and fill out eviction papers. She doesn't have a leg to stand on if you had the lease before she moved in and her name is not on it.. Like a previous poster mentioned, get a immediate restraining order. If she contacts your friends and business she will have broken it and will be taken to jail. You may want to call the cops and tell them you have been trying to get her to leave and she refuses to. They can tell you how to begin the legal eviction process. I would also contact SC social services and inform them you know where she has been living. Stop letting her bully you. She is in the wrong. The fact that she spies on you and threatens you is scary! Call the cops tonight!
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