EnigmasMuse Posted March 7, 2007 Posted March 7, 2007 No he didn't hide in the woods! He confronted him and he confessed. This has been going on for 2 yrs. The lying and manipulating that his mom has been doing for him. So how was the situation handled other than him being confronted? I hope he wasn't punished or anything because the son admitted to having sex. The reality is that it happens. I don't blame you if you all are mad at the mother for lying and covering for him. I'm not sure what you mean though by she covered and lied for him? Did you all point blank ask her if she knew he was having sex? And she lied and said no?
Author Sassy Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 So how was the situation handled other than him being confronted? I hope he wasn't punished or anything because the son admitted to having sex. The reality is that it happens. I don't blame you if you all are mad at the mother for lying and covering for him. I'm not sure what you mean though by she covered and lied for him? Did you all point blank ask her if she knew he was having sex? And she lied and said no? For 2yrs she was lying for him . She made us out to be the bad guy all the time leaving ugly messages on our answering machine all the time. Saying we would get ours . All along she was lying for him. He would do something behind my SO back and she would lie and cover up for him. She allowed these girls to come to her house and let them go in his room with the door closed when he stayed with her on the weekends. She said she didn't think he would have sex while she was there. She probably was too drunk or cracked up to realise anything. Yes we are mad at the mom for not having better judgement. Just hope and pray this little girl isn't pregnant.
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 She probably was too drunk or cracked up to realise anything. Do you actually know this for sure? If so, then he shouldn't be living with his mom. She's got drug/alcohol problems, her judgement isn't sharp.... Your stepson may need counselling to help undo the damage his mom has done to him. The habits, behaviour he probably has picked up by her... Being angry and bitter isn't the way to handle this situation, it will only make it worse. Get family counselling for everybody.
JackJack Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Get family counselling for everybody. I agree with this. Its not just his moms responsibility, its hers, his dads, and yours. There were 3 people (adults) in his life that he needed and still needs proper guidence from. You all should pull together as a team, not have fought one another over the years. And because that happened, now he probably feel he is paying for it, and that is not really fair to him.
a4a Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Get family counselling for everybody. I agree with this. Its not just his moms responsibility, its hers, his dads, and yours. There were 3 people (adults) in his life that he needed and still needs proper guidence from. You all should pull together as a team, not have fought one another over the years. And because that happened, now he probably feel he is paying for it, and that is not really fair to him. I agree. And since we can only go by your take on things- it seems as though you are the only decent adult in the whole lot. So even if they refuse to go to counselling you should. Learn to parent him and communicate with him. If he has been in your life since he was 2 years old you are indeed his mother figure as well. So you have to fill those shoes. He seems like a pawn in this whole mess of adult problems. He was not born with this terrible behavior.... he learned it.
Author Sassy Posted March 8, 2007 Author Posted March 8, 2007 Get family counselling for everybody. I agree with this. Its not just his moms responsibility, its hers, his dads, and yours. There were 3 people (adults) in his life that he needed and still needs proper guidence from. You all should pull together as a team, not have fought one another over the years. And because that happened, now he probably feel he is paying for it, and that is not really fair to him. We tried to get along with her but it was totally impossible ,when she always caused friction and wanted to create drama all the time!!!!
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