dazednconfuzed Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Last Saturday, my gf of nearly one year cheated on me with a guy, lied to me, blew me off, stood me up and dumped me a week after Valentine's Day and two weeks before our 1 year anniversary. I didn't cry. I just felt numb, so I got on an online personals site and winked at a new girl. This girl sent me an e-mail asking if we could meet? I met her, was attracted to her and ended up sleeping with her. She didn't have any problems with going all the way. The desire was mutual, but I feel strange. I like her, but I barely know her. Is this a rebound relationship? Does it stand a chance of success, and where do I go from here?
oppath Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Yes, this is a rebound. It does not mean it won't work it. I doubt, however, that you have fully processed your last relationship. It sounds like you are forcing yourself to move on to convince yourself the break up is no big deal and to prove you can move on. How do you truly feel about the break up? How much did you value the relationship? How betrayed do you feel? You can't expect a relationship to develop out of first date sex, or even 10th date sex. No-one can predict the future and tell you it will work out. Good for you on scoring. Be careful though that you aren't giving yourself a false sense of esteem from this new woman. Don't develop a relationship, just date. Keep things extremely casual. If after 3 months, you are still seeing this woman and feel a connection, then perhaps it is legit. But if you rush into a relationship within a month it is unlikely to work out and you are likely to use this woman and hurt her unless she has no expectations for a relationship.
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