Guest Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 My boyfriend and I have had our share of problems yet when things are going good between us I could not be happier as we do have so much fun together. Over the weekend I can understand he is tired from work but he didn't want to do anything just sit around.We share a house her with another girl and my child and Saturday night we had the house to ourselves.All he wanted to do was sleep so I went to bed reasonable early to be with him but he turned his back and went to sleep.Sunday seemed fine except he did nothing around the house whatsoever. We had a nice breakfast and I had plans to go shopping in the afternoon.He had a headache and I got him some medication and an icepack and told him to lay down for a while which he did.Later when he was feeling OK he said to me we should go get the shopping but then he said he didn't understand why I cannot go anywhere without him.I told him I can,I just wanted him to come along with me as he is my partner and I thought he might like to spend some time outside with me. You see,the following night I had to pick my child up from a friends place and the drive there is on a country road so I was worried if I broke down I would be stranded out in the middle of nowhere which to me is not safe for a woman so I asked him to come along and he told me he could not see why I cannot go alone.So now it's Sunday and I ask him to come shopping with me so he could pick out his fruit for work and also we could look at a few other stores while we were there.He then says to me he feels I don't trust him,that I wonb't leave him on his own because of this. I told him that was not true.that I just wanted to spend some time outside with him as we had done nothing all weekend.He then proceeds to tell me that we don't have to do everything together.Now,I start to get upset and feel he is trying to get away from me so I ask him this and he says to me WHATEVER...I am crying by this time yet he shows me no compassion and goes into the loungeroom to watch television.I could hear him laughing loud and he then comes in and tells me to get up and go out there and watch it with him.No sorry for what he said to me or for upsetting me. I then phone a friend and organise to go visit them to prove to my man that I am able to do things without him.I get into the car and he comes out and tells me if I go he will not be here when I get home. Last night I go to bed and accidently elbowed him,now I am so apologenic to him,he starts to get upset with me then he rolls over once again I am looking at his back. He never said goodnight or anything.I wake up this morning and am feeling so emotionally drained and cannot stop crying.He phones me to see if I can take his computer in to get fixed and I ask him why is he treating me so bad?All he can say is whatever.I tell him if he doesnt want to be with me then rather then treat me bad then to move out,he says once again,WHATEVER.I start to cry over the phone and tell him I am hurting by his actions.He shows no compassion or anything. I called him up and ask him if he wants to go then go,not to be like this with me as it's hurting me too much.He tells me it's not like that,that I am OVERREACTING.Oh and I also get told I am insecure.He never compliments me yet if our housemate comes in he will notice her and compliment her,mind you she is half our age. This man is not communicating with me,he is not meeting me half way and not reasuring me,should I just tell him to go?
nikki222 Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 Seems like a very tough situacion. Has he always been moody or just recently? Im kinda in the same sorta spot, but my boyfriend suffers from depression. Do you think maybe he may have a problem with that? My boyfriend will be AMAZING, and then one day i wake up and its not him. He is cold and emotionless towards me. I guess the only thing you need to do right now is think about you and your child's well being. IF you are not happy or emotionally stable your child will see that. And you need to put yourself first. If he is going to act like that, that is clearly not a way you want to be treated OR should be treated.
Guest Posted March 10, 2007 Posted March 10, 2007 Seems like a very tough situacion. Has he always been moody or just recently? Im kinda in the same sorta spot, but my boyfriend suffers from depression. Do you think maybe he may have a problem with that? My boyfriend will be AMAZING, and then one day i wake up and its not him. He is cold and emotionless towards me. I guess the only thing you need to do right now is think about you and your child's well being. IF you are not happy or emotionally stable your child will see that. And you need to put yourself first. If he is going to act like that, that is clearly not a way you want to be treated OR should be treated. He ended up moving out so we could both sort ourselves out.The other night we ended up in a huge arguement and we both did things we regret.He didnt want to move out but I told him for now it is the best thing for both of us but I am still going to date him.I need to deal with my trust issues and insecurities.I take anti depressents and found out they are not agreeing with me.I have been having agressive outburts and breaking down.I know he tends to push my buttons too which does not help but I am wrong as well and now can admit this. Last night he took me out on a date.He came to the door and introduced himself like we had never met before and the whole evening felt so magical and as if we had just first met.He could not understand at first why I dont want him to move back in but this way we can learn so much about each other before we commit in anoy other way.
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