Guest Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 This is long…but I need help…This happened this past Tueday… She called and said her school work is piling up, her family life is bad, she's got college ahead of her, the ACT's, and she has a pap exam coming up that will determine if her HPV has cleared up or not. (It’s all the truth…I know she’s not lying) She said she’s having a crisis right now and doesn’t know what to do. She told me that she needs to take a break and get her life sorted out before she can have any sort of serious relationship. She told me it's nothing I did but it's everything going on in her life right now. That she really likes me and doesn't want to do it, but felt like she had to. She wants to try and do it single. She then said that after her stuff is sorted out, then she can think about a relationship again. Then she said she had to get off the phone to go do something, but to call her back later if I want. She'd understand if I didn't want to. I told her I understand where she's coming from and everything, but I'm completely bummed out. I later called her back because she wanted me to do and we talked for a little bit but I was really quiet. I told her that I’m still here to talk if you want in the future. She said okay and about 5 minutes later she had to go do some homework. She then said “I’ll talk to you tomorrow if you want”…and I haven’t talked to her since Tuesday. I cried for almost a day after this happened. My sister told her about it and she said she felt so bad, and maybe in the future we can get back together… Should I continue going no contact or should I talk to her? I want to help her through her problems but I also don’t want it to hinder a future relationship. Maybe no contact is the best option? It’s just so tough. I don’t know if she still wants me to be there for her for support or not. I mean, she still likes me…but she’s so busy right now. Btw...we’ve been dating for 2 and a half months. Also...she has had a terrible past. She was raped when she was 13, got pregnant before by her ex bf and he beat her until she had a miscarriage at 15, did drugs, alcohol, all that when she was around 14 or 15...I told her that I'd still be there for her and accept her for who she is now...which is a great person. She told me I was the greatest guy in the world for that. She really has turned her life around. I love her for who she is now…and please don’t tell me she’s damaged goods. That’s what my dad told me and he said never to speak to her again after this. I got so pi***d when he said that. My mom doesn’t believe her reasons for leaving either. It’s like everyone around me doesn’t want me to speak with her. Please…I need advice.
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