Distracted Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I am a proponent of intial NC with the ex for as long as it takes to feel back to normal. But I haven't been entirely practicing it in the last couple weeks becuase I thought I was at a point that the strict NC was no longer needed. I'd done fairly well, but last weekend I had two run-ins with the ex where I ended up angry with him and yelled a bit. This led me to the conclusion that I wasn't ready to give up NC and I decided that this past week and weekend I would very purposely avoid any place that I might run into him. The week went well, but this weekend, I was hanging out with friends at a bar on the corner of my street and guess who shows up! I was actually on my way out when he came in so I didn't have to hang out with him, but what gives! Why is he showing up in my neighborhood when there is clearly no reason for him to be there! I heard from my friends he stayed for one drink- told them that he had met a new girl on his trip to Florida and then left. Also, this was not the first time he had been down to this bar by himself for no apparent reason. Honestly this is screwing with my head, I feel like he is acting like a high schooler... Does anyone have any insight into what this behavior means? Is he just checking up on me to make sure I'm not dating someone new, or is this some half a**ed attempt to show me he still cares? And men say women are complicated :-)
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 It sounds to me like he's trying to get your attention. A physical presence is a good way to deter the old adage of "out of sight, out of mind". It's the perfect way to sabotage NC.
Am4Real Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 It sounds to me like he's trying to get your attention. A physical presence is a good way to deter the old adage of "out of sight, out of mind". It's the perfect way to sabotage NC. This is exactly true. Aghhh... Am4Real
kel30 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Distracted, I been reading your story since it had a lot of points in common with mine and - believe it or not - my "ex", if I can call him that (ex-date), keeps contacting me too, even though I'm doing the NC thing! I don't get it either!!!!!!! What can us girls do?!?!
Trialbyfire Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Avoid all your normal haunting grounds, use call block and delete them from any online access to you.
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