OHHMyHeart Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Hello everyone, Here is my story, I moved to college last year and left my boyfriend about 100 miles away he was very upset at me for leaving. He just all of a sudden stopped talking to me and cut me out of his life for absoultely no reason. The last thing he said to me was "I'm going to call you back", well he didn't lie, he called me 5 months later after the last conversation after having no contact the entire time. However, I didn't answer the phone, however i wish i would have because I would have had a chance to ask what happened but I didn't. Why do you think someone would do this, what would you do if you were in my shoes. Any advice would be helpful. Thank You SO Very Much!
jusified Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 maybe its because you'e really hurt him?? relationships aint easy, but its good if both party want it t work You do need to give more background but to be honest, I would not be happy if m gf ust packed up and left me wit out trying to work things out.
Stewart Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 From what I understand, it seems as though your BF resented you for leaving him. Simple as that I think. Perhaps he felt abandoned by the one person he felt he could rely on, perhaps it was such a shock to his system you moving away that he 'rebelled' and decided to react negatively to it. Whether or not he loves you is uncertain to anyone buy you and him, but I think he is trying to punish you for moving away to college. He could be trying to cope with his pain by causing you pain as well, and its perhaps validating his own pain to a certain extent. Everyone's situation is unique, so I can only speculate. If you want him back, then simply confront him on the issue, ask why he hasn't contacted you, and if you love him, tell him. But try and make him understand that by moving away to college, it does not mean you do not love him (of course assuming this is the case).
Author OHHMyHeart Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 First I wanna say thankyou for your suggestions! Heres more information... We were together for a year and a month We were best friends first, however it quickly involved into a romantic relationship We never had any big arguments and got along great(from what i can see) I found out in June that I would be going to college in August I told him and he was very upset. Everytime I said something about it he would cut me off I was going to becoming home every weekend for my mom was sick and I had a job i had to maintain However, every weekend I would come home he would say he had something else to do or the phone line would be busy (another girl already?) the last thing he said to me was "i'm going to call you back" He cut me out of his life completely! I didn't do a thing. He could have at least given me closure. I made a mistake and texted him one time saying "I miss you" but i didn't get a reply so i left it alone. For that hurted my pride. However, he magically appreared to remember me 5 months later when school was out and i was back at home. I ignored his call. But now i'm curious to see what could he have wanted What would you think? It is breaking my heart the way he ignored my feelings! I feel so stupid for even caring but i cant help it!
jusified Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 well if thats the way he reacted then its pretty immature. Maybe you should have tried harder and maybe he should have tried harder. Its hard for both of you but if you think you did the best you can, then understand he chose t do what he did.
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Hello everyone, Here is my story, I moved to college last year and left my boyfriend about 100 miles away he was very upset at me for leaving. He just all of a sudden stopped talking to me and cut me out of his life for absoultely no reason. The last thing he said to me was "I'm going to call you back", well he didn't lie, he called me 5 months later after the last conversation after having no contact the entire time. However, I didn't answer the phone, however i wish i would have because I would have had a chance to ask what happened but I didn't. Why do you think someone would do this, what would you do if you were in my shoes. Any advice would be helpful. Thank You SO Very Much! I agree what someone else has said about the way he handled this was pretty immature. Did you both make any plans on how to keep the relationship going? Such as while your away to talk on an instant message or something? If you both didn't really talk much about keeping the relationship up with one another then I think thats how it can fall to peices. He should have accepted if you do schooling, even if it is further away than expected. Its something for you to do for your life, to benifit for yourself and to get greater ahead in life. I think he should have realised this and support you with your descision rather than to try punish you by ignoring you.
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