LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 So me and my roommate are alone again; his kids gone for the weekend; calls when he gets off work today. He asked about eating (not unusual, we always stop at drive thrus for each other) but I told him I had McD's. When he gets home, he mentions that he was thinking of a sit-down dinner. Dam! If only I'd known. He could have went out with friends but he didn't. I talked his head off for a while about school. Then we watched a little tv. I could see he was growing tired. I smiled and winked a couple times. Then, he positions himself on his end of the couch to snooze..(not unususal) but this time, he slouches down, with his knees inward towards my end, with his elbow up behind his head. It was perfect position for me to snuggle right on top of him. Should I get him a blanket? I resisted all urges to show affection. He snored for a little while as I kept watching tv. When he woke up I cheerfully said "Hi!"...got himself together for a sec, then off to his room and he shut the door w.out saying good night. He knows I'm here sexually frustrated and lonely. He's in bed and now I want to go in my own room and pleasure myself. We've had the talk that we want to live together beyond our lease. But we are "roommates". Would it be a good idea for me to make 1st move? I don't mean to have sex, but to get physically closer. I'm scared of what my feelings could do to the 10 yr. freindship.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 Anyone out there? I'm dying for advice before I go to bed...but oh well..it isnt' like I can do anything now anyway...I'm so anxious...but in a good feeling way..
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 No one can tell you what's right for you, in this particular situation, although I will say that you might want to wait for his first move. If you make the first move and he's not interested, it will create awkwardness. Why don't you test the waters and flirt with him a little and see if he responds? If he doesn't, shut it down fast before it becomes awkward.
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 If he doesn't, shut it down fast before it becomes awkward. If it's pointing right at you, then you're on to a winner.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 If it's pointing right at you, then you're on to a winner. I don't look to see if it's pointing at me! We do flirt sometimes..I think we've initiated a couple of flirty one liners..that's about it though...I winked at him and then fell asleep on the couch..I guess that's not a response huh..I even wore my shirt unbuttoned enough to show cleavage! I know he looked! it's as subtle as I can get without saying "Kiss me now!" i'd be heartbroken to think he doesn't find me attractive.
Storyrider Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I feel for you with this one. I do think it is better for him to make the move, but it is hard waiting around when you know exactly what you want to do. Maybe make him dinner next time, and wear something sexy to let him know you have romantic intentions. I'm worried that he doesn't feel that way about you if he hasn't made the move yet, unless he is really shy.
Island Girl Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I don't look to see if it's pointing at me! We do flirt sometimes..I think we've initiated a couple of flirty one liners..that's about it though...I winked at him and then fell asleep on the couch..I guess that's not a response huh..I even wore my shirt unbuttoned enough to show cleavage! I know he looked! it's as subtle as I can get without saying "Kiss me now!" i'd be heartbroken to think he doesn't find me attractive. If you've been friends for 10 years and now roommates living together - don't you think you can talk to him? I mean pose the question - "have you ever thought about taking our relationship to another level?" By the way - if he hasn't or doesn't want to - it doesn't mean you are unattractive, etc. He just may want to keep the friendship or you aren't HIS type. That doesn't mean you aren't someone else's type! If you are feeling this way I'd definitely have this conversation before your lease ends so you don't end up pining away locked into another lease.
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 i'd be heartbroken to think he doesn't find me attractive. Normally I'm not too picky, but you have a tiny mouth, and almost no nose. Sorry to be so blunt.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 If you've been friends for 10 years and now roommates living together - don't you think you can talk to him? I mean pose the question - "have you ever thought about taking our relationship to another level?" By the way - if he hasn't or doesn't want to - it doesn't mean you are unattractive, etc. He just may want to keep the friendship or you aren't HIS type. That doesn't mean you aren't someone else's type! If you are feeling this way I'd definitely have this conversation before your lease ends so you don't end up pining away locked into another lease. Should I tell him the feelings I get when we are alone together? And then ask if he has ever had these thoughts as well?
Storyrider Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Normally I'm not too picky, but you have a tiny mouth, and almost no nose. Sorry to be so blunt. Look who's talking. You're neon pink. Just ignore him.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 Normally I'm not too picky, but you have a tiny mouth, and almost no nose. Sorry to be so blunt. Lucky for me that's not really me.
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 You know thousands of women would kill for mauve hair...
Storyrider Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 You know thousands of women would kill for mauve hair... ...not to mention the blouse is really flattering. That color is great on you. You must be a "winter".
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 I feel for you with this one. I do think it is better for him to make the move, but it is hard waiting around when you know exactly what you want to do. Maybe make him dinner next time, and wear something sexy to let him know you have romantic intentions. I'm worried that he doesn't feel that way about you if he hasn't made the move yet, unless he is really shy. We used to give each other hugs, etc. more often but it seems we both shy away from it now, for some reason. I think he is a bit shyer than I thought even after all these years. What if he feel stuck in the friend zone? I feel that way and I want out...one night when we 1st moved in I said somethign about being cold and he said "you need someone to hold you". I looked at him like, "huh?" and he says "oh, you know, someone to cuddle with". That wasn't the only comment to make me wonder. but one can't assume too quickly.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 Thanks for the compliments ..yea the hair was a drastic change
Island Girl Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Should I tell him the feelings I get when we are alone together? And then ask if he has ever had these thoughts as well? Nooooooooooooooooooo You just ask him if he's ever thought of taking it to another level. I'd bring it up in a round-a-bout way. I'd start a relationship discussion with him and mention friends turning into more...and then "have you ever thought about dating me?", etc. Don't tell him how you are feeling - he'll have the hint that you brought up the conversation to begin with. A good poker player doesn't just put all his cards on the table right?
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 We used to give each other hugs, etc. more often but it seems we both shy away from it now, for some reason. Sexual tension.
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 You just ask him if he's ever thought of taking it to another level. Are you assuming that the bedroom is upstairs?
Trialbyfire Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 ...not to mention the blouse is really flattering. That color is great on you. You must be a "winter". Imagine a light grey shirt with matching pants and boots. Quite the fashion statement.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 What if I just ask him what he thinks about our relationship? Ask him if he has ever thought of me as more than roommate?
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Imagine a light grey shirt with matching pants and boots. Quite the fashion statement. What if the boots don't come off in a hurry?
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 What if I just ask him what he thinks about our relationship? Ask him if he has ever thought of me as more than roommate? That's not exactly subtle. You might as well ask if he would like to see your boobies.
Author LoveLace Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 That's not exactly subtle. You might as well ask if he would like to see your boobies. I'm trying to play off of island girls advice..
magichands Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 "We've been friends for a long time now, but do you ever see us as being more than friends? Naked friends, perhaps??"
Island Girl Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 What if I just ask him what he thinks about our relationship? Ask him if he has ever thought of me as more than roommate? Yes but try and make it easier than just that. Put it in the context of talking. Relaxed - so neither of you feel put on the spot. Glad you like my name!
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