Mydish1 Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I got back from my date with a girl i met a week ago. Things went pretty good and no complaints. Throughout the date half or 1/3 of the time we werent talking. Just about any type of conversation we had, I had to think up the topic - and even then, i would probably get a 3 word answer and if im lucky a full sentence. I suppose its still good i have that mystery to me that i know more about her than she does me. If it's like this from now on for every other date, i dont know how long ill last. Im more attracted to a girl who can take up as much interest in me as i do her...it shouldnt be one sided. I understand she doesnt get out much and usually is at home which could explain. Sometimes when i dont look at her, ill catch her looking at me...so im thinking she's a little shy. Likely i doubt thats the case because we have made good EC several times. Any tips or suggestions?
Sand&Water Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 RE: Quiet date, non-conversationalist or just shy? All of the above. Be honest with yourself: Did you feel Chemistry? and Attraction? Half to 1/3 of the time was spent in silence! Turn off. This is not reasonable -or rather, not encouraging. I doubt it will improve on the second or third date. Conversation brings out the personality, fire-works, and feel of the other person. If you can't be at ease when conversing/being around her, then how will you be able to connect let alone date her. It's too late. Just be friends with her -she would have put in a little effort if she was sincerely interested. You are the only one who knows the trueness of the situation. Make your own decision (follow heart or mind -that's for you to discover). Sand&Water
Author Mydish1 Posted March 5, 2007 Author Posted March 5, 2007 I know that people who dont get out much usually have trouble conversing and do have a tendency to be quiet in social situations. But the weird thing was that the silence wasnt the awkward type - it was the good type. And somehow it seems to work, she seems comfortable with me and i had no problem kissing her at the end of the night. The first time i met her she was kind of like that (quiet/not much talkative), but i though she would be different on our date. From what i can tell she's the submissive type, i get the feeling she's 'settling' for me (because i say so) - that she has no interest in being with someone unless the guy makes the move (me)....kind of a mindless zombie that doesnt have an opinion of her own (or her own judgment). I dont remember if that's how 18 year olds are, but i wouldnt be surprised if its common for girls that age to behave. is that usually how they behave?
Star Gazer Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 There are other options here, like that she's just not that interested.
Author Mydish1 Posted March 5, 2007 Author Posted March 5, 2007 There are other options here, like that she's just not that interested. That might be true. But then again who knows, she looked outstanding for me on our date..and when we met up it kind of seemed like she expected a kiss from me. Perhaps the proper classification for this is she seems emotionally unavailable/detached. She's a cool girl... But interacting with her alone, seems like she has nothing she cares about, desires, or has passion for - or maybe she has trouble expressing herself i dont know its hard to explain.
Star Gazer Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 That might be true. But then again who knows, she looked outstanding for me on our date..and when we met up it kind of seemed like she expected a kiss from me. I look outstanding every time I leave the house - maybe she does too? Don't assume she looked amazing FOR YOU. Many women doll themselves up for themselves, or are just naturally gorgeous. And what was it that made you think she expected a kiss? Did she pucker up or something?
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