Lorca Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 So I meet a woman on Match.com. We exchange a few emails and decide to meet. I gave her my number and tell her to give me a call if anything comes up. She doesn't call, but sends me her number a couple of days later. So call call her and get her answering service, so I leave a message to confirm the meet. She doesn't return the call until the day of saying she didn't get my message until that day. She's on her way, but she isn't exactly sure how to get there. I'm on my way already and we had to meet somewhere else. By the time we got there, the place we orginally intended to go was closed. But thinking on my feet, I saw another place and took her there. We talked the whole time and I thought it didn't go badly. We had a good conversation. So I was hopeful at the end of the meet. So I called her last night and got her answering service again. I took that as a bad sign, but I left a message again. This morning, I get another mail from her on Match and this is what it said: [COLOR=#333333]Hi there-[/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333]Just wanted to say thank you for dinner and everything! You are a very sweet person and I enjoyed meeting you. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333]At this time, I do not feel a romantic connection between us, but I did want to say that you are very fun and kind, and I do appreciate you meeting me (after so many twists and turns!)[/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333]Best of luck to you, and also thanks for the career advice- it will come in handy![/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333]I guess what I'm trying to figure out is, we had a good time. But since she felt no sparks, no second date? I'm ok with there being no sparks, but now I feel like an ass because I called her after she sent that email!!! [/COLOR]
sb129 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Hey don't worry- it was just crossed lines. It happens alot. Don't feel like an ass. I think she let you know in quite a considerate way, alot of people just never call! Onto the next one matey!!
Author Lorca Posted March 3, 2007 Author Posted March 3, 2007 Yeah, thanks. I know, it's just a little upsetting when you're willing to give it another shot and the other person just isn't. The funny thing is, if it's not a total disaster, I'm always willing to give it a second chance and the other person usually isn't.
ratingsguy Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I think she let you know in quite a considerate way, alot of people just never call! That's my biggest pet peeve with dating... grace after the date. Most people have none. You should always call the person a day or two after the date to thank them, regardless of whether or not you want to see them again. It was very nice of her to thank you for the date. She was also considerate by being up front enough to let you know that she didn't want to pursue anything. Sorry it didn't work out, but like SB said, most people will just disappear off the face of the planet. Better luck next time!
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