Prudence Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Hello, I have been married for 12 years and am considering getting a divorce from my husband. (I'm not sure if we're going to work it out or not.) One thing that is making me hesitate is the housing issue. I wondered if anyone here had any advice or had a similar situation. Neither my husband nor I could afford the mortgage payments alone, so we'd have to sell the house. We have two dogs that I really, really love and could not get rid of, but where I could live with two dogs? I don't know how likely it is to find an apartment that will accept two 40-lb dogs and I can't afford a rental house, either, at least one that is decent. And I worry about my dogs not having a backyard anymore, and living in a smaller place than our current home. I know these worries may sound silly. I don't want the dogs to be the only reason I stay married, and yet I am concerned about housing. Any thoughts?
Jinxx Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 If there is any chance where you can stay in the house then do it and get a roommate (or 2) to help with the costs. The dog issue is huge.
GreenEyedLady Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I think you should focus more on why you're considering D in the first place...your worries are not silly, per se, but I think you are focusing on the dogs, rather than whatever it is making your M seem unworkable...why not try and fix the M and not worry about housing for the dogs?
Storyrider Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Maybe you could find a rent house or duplex with a decent sized yard.
Author Prudence Posted March 3, 2007 Author Posted March 3, 2007 Hi Jinxx, That's a thought. I hadn't thought about "stranger" roommates. I did wonder about having my mom move in, but I'm not sure that would be good. It would be hard to have any potential dates over, it would be hard to act as adult and "free" as I'd like. My mom is a little financially unstable, too. But I would dread living with a stranger! But good idea, though. Thanks. Hi GreenEyedLady, I am definitely focusing on the other issues in the marriage. I just don't want the dogs to be a factor in whether to stay or go. Hi SR, So far, what I've seen of the rentals is that the decent houses and duplexes that are in good neighborhoods are out of my league, but I should keep looking. Magichands, I do love Aussie accents but that's a little bit far! And probably more expensive than keeping the house! So I'll move this suggestion to the back burner for now. tragiclands, (your name rhymes with magichands!), thank you for the link! That is helpful.
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