lovergirl911 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 hi everyone my name is Jen and I'm 15 years old....I've liked this guy for a while and finally he asked me out! We have been gonig out for a week and he started saying I Love You. I said it back but i dont know if I mean it and I think i just said it to make him feel better. I think I love him but I don't really know what love is?? The great thing is thou I don't feel weird like I did around my other boyfriends. Hopefully someone can help me and tell me what I should do Thank you, Jen:eek:
roxy_1980 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 You cannot possibly love someone after only a week. You may like him a whole lot. You may see things that you could love in him. But let's face, you don't know him well enough to even know who he really is. Nevermind, if you love him. His "I love you" statement after one week, is frankly, a little worrying. It screams desperation and over-attachment.
Lauriebell82 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 i agree with roxy..one week is wwwwaaayyy too soon to be saying that. is he 15 as well? u are both young, so it could be possible that he is mistaking "loving u" for "loving to be with u." those are two very seperate things. my advice is to not say it back. i'd even suggest talking to him about it, its probably just his immaturity coming into play here.
TheDC Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I'll have to agree with Roxy but I'll take it one step further that I don't think a 15 year old is even capable of mature love. Infatuation sure but not love. I think what you are mistaking infatuation for love.
Arazi1982 Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Christ, they are just kids. You're young - its all new. Just keep talking to him about what you're thinking - he'll do the same. You'll both make mistakes. Just relax.
ImWithHim Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 my advice is to not say it back. i'd even suggest talking to him about it, its probably just his immaturity coming into play here. I wouldn't say it back if you don't feel it, but I certainly wouldn't talk to him about it. It will embarrass him, likely seriously hurt his feelings, and he'll probably totally pull away emotionally. And for the love of god, don't use the word "immature." While an adult can use the word immature in place of "naive," if you say it's immature he will think "immature" as in childish. Just make sure he's not trying to tell you he loves you hoping to get you in bed, because even at 15, guys can and will manipulate based on what they hear from their buddies.
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