suchislife Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I'm still coping, (going on 3 months), and was wondering... I would like to hear from you about moving on, how things went, how you met someone new where it worked out. Just curiousity really, I know length of time doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it... I would just like to see if there are any patterns, maybe you reached a point where you were ok being alone, etc. I'm ok. Not great, sometimes the silence is deafening, but when I have an opportunity to go out on dates, it's with people where there is no spark or even friendship - we have just met - so I don't go. And, I'm just now getting used to and enjoying being alone. I'd like to hear from you. Thanks.
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 While time by yourself can be lonely, it can also give you the opportunity to heal, learn more about who you are, and what you want out of your next relationship. You asked about moving on.... I ended a relationship. "Coping" took about 8 months for me. I was barely interested in eating, let alone going out on dates or meeting someone new. I basically went to work, slept, ate when I had to, and breathed. That was it. Towards the last, true acceptance came for me, and I realized that I could be "okay" alone. Something I hadn't been since I was 17 yrs old. Several more months before I actually accepted a date. I'm still not entirely "over" it. But I have moved forward, and am happy again. You will be too, eventually. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
jgaz3124 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I have always jumped from relationship to relationship, so for along time I have never really been alone. But now that I have been broken up with my most current ex I have been alone about 6 months and I am starting to rediscover the me that I have lost in all these relationships. I now want to be alone for awhile before I start a new one. I really think it depends on you as to how long it will take. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be in a healthy place yourself, only then will you attract a healthy partner to be with. I have always been unhealthy in my views on relationships so therefore I have had nothing but unhealthy relationships. Now I am taking the time to fix all that and be in a better place in my life and when I meet the right one hopefully this time it will be for the right reasons.
Jinxx Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I don't think think this is something you can put a time frame on. It has been six months for me. I'm fine being along but miss the companship one shares in a relationship. I cope every day. I go through the routine of getting up, going to work, doing the chores and other activities to get me through the day. Even though you get used to being alone it is still lonely.
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