Guest Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 We had been seeing each other a while and decided to have sex for the first time. We had discussed that we were both "clean." I am also on the pill. I said that I wanted to use a condom for a while, just to be on the safe side for both of us. He said he preferred the pull-out method. I said "Why? Condoms would be safer." He said "I really can't do it that well with a condom. I need to do the pull out method because I don't a hundred percent trust that some women wouldn't not take their pills. " (His brother married a woman because she became pregnant on purpose, at least that is what he told me.) Well I stopped right there because I seriously wanted to use a condom a while and he wants its his pull out way, or not. He still wants to see me and work things out, but I told him I wasn't interested. This is tough. Is this enough to dump a guy over?
Lauriebell82 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 This is tough. Is this enough to dump a guy over? yes. if u are not comfortable not using a condom, than dont do it. actually using a condom is MUCH more effective for preventing pregnancy than the pull out method. is he uncomfortable wearing a condom at all? or just coming inside u? because u could always just use a condom and have him pull out if ur comfortable with that. then u have double the protection.
Trialbyfire Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Condoms not only help to prevent unwanted pregnancy, they also help to prevent STDs. Do not back down from your stance but as a logical person, he should agree to your terms if he cares about you. Anyone can believe they're clean but unless they take a test just previous to making out, it's meaningless.
Island Girl Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I know you said you "discussed" being clean - But if he doesn't use condoms you do not know he is - even using condoms is no guarantee - but not using condoms is opening the door to disease so if he is not using them, he is increasing his chances of getting something including a baby. The only sure way is to make him go to the doctor and see the results. FYI - you can get pregnant from pre-cum that is excreted while the man remains excited - i.e. while he is inside of you. The "pull out method" is NOT in any way reliable and should not even be a "method" to prevent pregnancy. I mean, we have the knowledge that this doesn't work why would any of us on the planet still consider it? You stood your ground now stick to it. You are correct. No guy is worth it.
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