pink smartie Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Ok! what the hell! I don't know how to handle myself anymore. The title says it all. I am horny. I love men. I sit at a board meeting and spend time wondering how good the presenter would be in bed and what size his penis is. I can't stop flirting with one and all, sometimes landing myself in murky waters. The thing is, this is all new for me. I have always been a one-man kind of girl. But right now, I want them all! I was also brought up to think that women shouldn't have sex too early with men and should avoid the etiquette 'slut' at all cost. What do I do? Is it bad if I shamelessly flirt with one and all? How can I reconcile my attraction to almost all men with my desire to find one I can share my life -and sex drive- with? Help!
Mythical Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 hey pink smartie, Im the same way! Even your name made me think of sex! lol anywase, I don't flirt with the guys I do have a b/f so I don't do that but I do think about sex all the time, masturbate at work, picture a guys co*k and how big it is, want sex all the time etc... I don't think you have a problem just need to learn how not to actually flirt with them. Beleive me i know there' will be this super hot guy and i just know his package is huge and picture it forcing in me!! Even girls make me super horny too and i think the same way That's good that you are that way you just need a boy to take it out on!
Pretty Fly Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Is the feeling that you want to sleep with different men and enjoy the variety, or do you want one guy to share this drive with? That Q is aimed at both above posters. I wonder as I've been out with girls who felt that way and it never lasted as they wanted variety.
Mythical Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Is the feeling that you want to sleep with different men and enjoy the variety, or do you want one guy to share this drive with? That Q is aimed at both above posters. I wonder as I've been out with girls who felt that way and it never lasted as they wanted variety. lol no defiently not variety, I just think it because im horny and wish my boy was around instead....nothing could turn me on more than him!! I pretty much could go without anyone else every again...i've hade my share of variety...so its pretty much just thinking sexual I don't even think about thier faces or anything just the feeling of having sex
KittenMoon Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Hey- it's all just fantasy unless you act on it, and that's A-OK. I've fantasized sex with lots of guys I'd never want to sleep with. I'm a one-man type of girl, but that won't ever stop my imagination!
Author pink smartie Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 Is the feeling that you want to sleep with different men and enjoy the variety, or do you want one guy to share this drive with? That Q is aimed at both above posters. I wonder as I've been out with girls who felt that way and it never lasted as they wanted variety. I would prefer to find one guy to share the drive with (hmmmm, sharing the drive). In fact, I want a guy I can have a serious relationship with. But I've been running into trouble in the process of looking for that one guy because I find something appealing about a lot a lot of guys. So I guess my attraction to many men is not just physical. But it does get physical rather fast. The presenter in afore mentioned board meeting was very skinny and had huge geeky glasses on. I still wanted to see him naked. In fact, I thought the geeky look was quite a turn-on. In the past, I used to always have only one guy I was interested in. I'm thinking that what's going on is that I have yet to find that one guy that I could have a serious crush on that would kind of make me 'monogamous'. And I want to say that I have been in two relationships, one 3 years and one 4, and never had a problem with monogamy. And yes, Mythical, LOL, I sneaked off this morning to masturbate at work. And I dream about sex all the time. So I am on the dating scene. How do I handle trying to find that one guy when there are so many guy out there I'm attracted too?
Author pink smartie Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 Hey- it's all just fantasy unless you act on it, and that's A-OK. I've fantasized sex with lots of guys I'd never want to sleep with. I'm a one-man type of girl, but that won't ever stop my imagination! I understand. I guess what I'm saying is that right now, I am setting myself up so that I find it harder and harder not to cross the line and act on my desires. The other day I was sitting at a table at a bar surrounded by 4 guys I had been flirting with in the last month or so. How they all ended up being in that same bar I have no idea. I mean, those guys probably realized that I'm a total flirt you know, and I'm thinking that this is not what they're looking for in a woman they want a serious relationship with. What should I do? Take the flirting down a notch?
Mythical Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I understand. I guess what I'm saying is that right now, I am setting myself up so that I find it harder and harder not to cross the line and act on my desires. The other day I was sitting at a table at a bar surrounded by 4 guys I had been flirting with in the last month or so. How they all ended up being in that same bar I have no idea. I mean, those guys probably realized that I'm a total flirt you know, and I'm thinking that this is not what they're looking for in a woman they want a serious relationship with. What should I do? Take the flirting down a notch? Well you defiently have to tone down the flirting and i agree with you that they probably think "just that" of you. Find one someone you like and just focus on that one. Flirting isn't the only way to get someones attention either, maybe just drop most of the flirting all together?
Topper Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 See I Knew you woman were always undressing me with your eyes! Your nothing but shameless, lustful, sex craved animals! And I say thank you, thank thank!
LoveLace Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I LOVE sex, which makes it all the more sucky that I haven't had it in almost 5 months now! Of course I pleasure myself, but it gets old..I get frustrated when I realize how badly I wish there was really a man there on top of me!! I've always been horrible with "relationships" and how they are supposed to go..so I used to be all about "using" men for casual encounters to get my needs met. Now, I want it to be with someone who is worth it. Even worse, I'm way too busy or too tired between work and nursing school to hardly ever get out and meet new people. I manage to get out sometimes, but it's rare to meet someone special in a bar. Even worse than that, my roommate is a man of whom I have a sexual past with and am very attracted to..I think about doing it with him all the time.. but he has a small penis..so I"m not sure that I would feel fulfilled...but I would jump on him if it weren't for the living together/being close friends scenario which would only create awkwardness! I'm not even sure if he finds me attractive... After not doing it for so long, I actually start to think about it less, and pleasuring myself has almost become like a chore, cuz it only makes me want a man even more. All I know is, it'll be like Yellowstone erupting when I get it again! I am one stressed out B***h!
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 As much of a double standard as it is, yes, you will likely get tagged as a "slut" or some other label if you flirt indiscriminately with everyone, which will make it harder for men to take you seriously as a romantic prospect. So, yes, tone down the flirting. As for finding everyone attractive, fantasy, sexual attraction, and being attracted to someone you could actually have a relationship with are all different things. I'm sure you know the difference between a purely sexual attraction and an attraction to "whole person" - the latter is where you will find relationship material, so focus your attention on those guys and just fantasize about the other ones in the meantime.
sb129 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 You sound like a good match for KMT Where is KMT? I would have thought he would have sniffed this thread out a mile away... we have found his soulmate!
Author pink smartie Posted March 3, 2007 Author Posted March 3, 2007 I am so going to go buy myself a new vibrator. I know you guys are right and I have to tone it down and wait until I meet someone I'm really into! I wish I were a guy. Seems like they have it easier on the horny front. Even worse than that, my roommate is a man of whom I have a sexual past with and am very attracted to..I think about doing it with him all the time.. but he has a small penis..so I"m not sure that I would feel fulfilled...but I would jump on him if it weren't for the living together/being close friends scenario which would only create awkwardness! I'm not even sure if he finds me attractive... I am in the exact same situation with a man who has, since our first sexual encounter years ago, become a coworker of mine. He too has a small penis - which I can somehow overlook when I'm in love, but not so much when it's just lust. Sorry guys. After not doing it for so long, I actually start to think about it less, and pleasuring myself has almost become like a chore, cuz it only makes me want a man even more. Yeah lately pleasuring myself has made me want to be with a man more. I just love men! Seriously. The way they smell, interact, smile, the deepness of their voice. Ok sounds like it's time for a cold shower for me. Hopefully I will soon snap out of horny mode. What if I found a FWB? KMT, you up for it? Thanks everyone. I will try to tone down. But I'm almost addicted to the attention I get from men by now. I seriously never thought that this would ever be a problem in my life.
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Ok! what the hell! I don't know how to handle myself anymore. The title says it all. I am horny. I love men. I sit at a board meeting and spend time wondering how good the presenter would be in bed and what size his penis is. I can't stop flirting with one and all, sometimes landing myself in murky waters. The thing is, this is all new for me. I have always been a one-man kind of girl. But right now, I want them all! I was also brought up to think that women shouldn't have sex too early with men and should avoid the etiquette 'slut' at all cost. What do I do? Is it bad if I shamelessly flirt with one and all? How can I reconcile my attraction to almost all men with my desire to find one I can share my life -and sex drive- with? Help! I don't think its bad to have fun and fool around with guys, its all experience in my opinion. Though yes many people would think if you sleep around with a whole bunch of diffrent guys that your a slut but who really needs to know what your doing and getting up to with your sex life? If you are going to fool around with a whole bunch of diffrent guys just make sure you are protected and safe while having sex. Not only from getting pregnant but with all these nasty transmitted diseases too.
Pretty Fly Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Though yes many people would think if you sleep around with a whole bunch of diffrent guys that your a slut but who really needs to know what your doing and getting up to with your sex life? I wouldn't go so far as saying it's "slutty", but beware... if I was the guy that you wanted to pursue something more with, but I saw you flirting with loads of guys and/or knew that you'd slept with many of them, I would be thinking that you didn't think of me as anything special and was just another guy you're attracted to - just "a" guy, not "the" guy. So I probably wouldn't pursue you (though if you pursued me, I might go along with it - but would probably think you only want sex). Hence why I asked that question about variety before. (I guess this works vice-versa too with women and "player" guys.)
sb129 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 You sound like a good match for KMT Where is KMT? I would have thought he would have sniffed this thread out a mile away... we have found his soulmate! KMT, where are you? Your search for a mate is over. And still he hasn't replied. Too busy spreading his love around I guess. Maybe I will PM him.
justagirliegirl Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I don't see anything wrong with going out and sowing your wild oats at all. Just use protection and have fun.
tommyr Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I have nothing productive to say here, only that I love this thread !
Green Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I am the horniest man alive... whats FWB... what ever it is Ill do it...wow mythical that was great your that much hotter to me.. as for the Horniest women alive bring it on come have some sex in the city...
CaliGuy Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Ok! what the hell! I don't know how to handle myself anymore. The title says it all. I am horny. I love men. I sit at a board meeting and spend time wondering how good the presenter would be in bed and what size his penis is. I can't stop flirting with one and all, sometimes landing myself in murky waters. The thing is, this is all new for me. I have always been a one-man kind of girl. But right now, I want them all! I was also brought up to think that women shouldn't have sex too early with men and should avoid the etiquette 'slut' at all cost. What do I do? Is it bad if I shamelessly flirt with one and all? How can I reconcile my attraction to almost all men with my desire to find one I can share my life -and sex drive- with? Help! Go find a boyfriend??? Problem solved
RecordProducer Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Well, you're horny so it's normal to think of any man you meet right now, given that you're single. If you're not single then you're not sexually and emotionally satisfied with your partner. You don't become a slut from fantasizing about many men. Once you find one to please you, you'll stop thinking about others.
Pyro Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I am the horniest man alive... whats FWB... what ever it is Ill do it...wow mythical that was great your that much hotter to me.. as for the Horniest women alive bring it on come have some sex in the city... So is there a chance that we will see the horniest children alive someday?
Thank God I walked Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I would kill to have a ton of variety. I think women are taught that it's not ok to sleep around that's why everyone sticks with the safe response that they only want their boyfriend. Not me. I would sleep with just about every guy I came in contact with if it wasn't for STD's.
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