JrobBrokenheart Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Im a 16 year old girl. I broke up with my boyfriend of one year on new years. he was an amazing guy, but was working lots and not spending time with me or doing things with me, and i was no longer happy with the relationship. I also had a crush on my best friends older brother, whos 20. When we broke up, it was very hard for him and for me as well. About a week and a half later the 20 year old asked me out, and we have been dating ever since. Id been going over to his apartment secretly, getting a tattoo and getting drunk and having sex every night(even school nights) before my dad found out and grounded me for the entire month of february. Around valentines day, he asked me to marry him(wed been dating for 1 month). I didnt answer right away, and eventually said no. He also told me he didnt like me talking to my ex, who id been calling every few days, so i told my ex we shouldnt talk anymore cause my boyfriend didnt like it, which hurt his feelings. My boyfriend was also previously engaged a few months ago but they broke up. I dont know what to do really. I feel really bad about not talking to my ex, i wanted to stay friends with him and i miss him and his family lots. I also worry that everything i am doing is making me look like a bad kid in everyones eyes. What should i do? Can my relationship survive me saying no? Are we both taking it way too fast? Give me your thoughts.
lipglossandpiink2010 Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Well, not to sound so blunt, you are going WAYYYY to fast. Only one month and he asked you to marry him? and your having sex everynight? i mean, maybe yall really love each other, but it sounds like to me you still have feelings for your ex, and it's going to be hard. specially since yall went out for so long. and he's been engaged before. i mean you can do what you want to do, but i personally think that you are headed down a highway that you really arent ready to get into yet. trust me i know, im only 15 and i've been where you are....pretty soon school finds out, you turn into the school slut and everyday you come home crying from being all miserable. [well, it might not happen that way to you, but to me it was hell for a whole year....] just think about what you really want. do you think it's worth not talking to your ex whom you went out with for a year? your reputation? i mean seems like to me you havent thought about the consequences...and it isnt gaurenteed your relationship will work. but then again, what do i know right?
Author JrobBrokenheart Posted March 5, 2007 Author Posted March 5, 2007 yeah, he keeps asking me to marry him, i just ignore him. its kinda awkward. do you think we can survive? hes my best friends brother, it would kind of make things strange. I cant really talk to my ex cause im honest and ill tell my boyfriend and i dont want him to get mad. is it right of him to get mad? also, rumors are getting out, my ex heard he proposed. I denied it but he knows i lied. These rumors are gonna make me look horrible, what should i do? and as for feelings for my ex, i love him still sure. ill always love him. but he wasnt making me happy. hes an amazing guy and for a year he made me the happiest person in the world, but in december he worked almost every day and never had more than an hour or two for me. any day we had off wed just sit around the house and not do anything cause he said he was tired or whatever. so i dumped him, and with this new guy its very exciting but hes... well u know what hes done i just dunno what to do
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