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Do men play hard-to-get the same way women do??

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From what I've seen, decidedly so...although for either to do this, is kind of silly, no?

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I play it cool. :cool:

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Only when I'm not begging. ;)

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Do men play hard-to-get the same way women do??

 

No. We either want to be with a woman or we don't

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No. We either want to be with a woman or we don't

 

I agree with this. We may get cautious if we aren't sure what your intentions are, which may come across as being hard to get.

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If I'm interested in a woman, and SHE gives me a green light, she'll have no doubt I like her. If she comes on too strong it is a turn off, but the only way I'd play hard to get is if I'm not really interested, am juggling many other girls, or am not ready for a relationship (for emotional, professional, health reasons).

 

Now, if I can't gauge a woman's interest in me, I'm much more remote.

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If but the only way I'd play hard to get is ....am not ready for a relationship (for emotional, professional, health reasons).

 

Now, if I can't gauge a woman's interest in me, I'm much more remote.

 

THIS is what I'm trying to figure out - if he's playing hard to get until he IS ready...keeping me on edge until then. It's mind boggling.

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THIS is what I'm trying to figure out - if he's playing hard to get until he IS ready...keeping me on edge until then. It's mind boggling.

Star Gazer, perhaps you could expand on what he does that makes you feel uncertain.

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Do men play hard-to-get the same way women do??

We most certainly do SG...but only the men who have something to offer can use this methodology.

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Do men play hard-to-get the same way women do??

 

I don't know about that.

 

In what way are you referring to?

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Men play hard to get if they are smart and understand women.

It makes us all the more enticing. :p

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Men play hard to get if they are smart and understand women.

It makes us all the more enticing. :p

 

A guy doesn't have to be hard to get to make themselves more enticing.

 

He just has to make sure not to open his heart all at once to a woman.

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Men play hard to get if they are smart and understand women.

It makes us all the more enticing. :p

tee hee :laugh:....basically the rule is the more people you have interested in you the easier it is to play hard to get.

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If a guy is really into you, he calls and asks you out, and makes his intentions clear. You know he wants you. my best advice (besides reading the book He's Just Not That Into You), is to not call him. Don't even call to just say 'hey.' Let him do the asking. He'll come around and pursue full force if he's into you.

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THIS is what I'm trying to figure out - if he's playing hard to get until he IS ready...keeping me on edge until then. It's mind boggling.

 

What do you mean? I didn't even realize you were interested in me.

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I don't play hard to get, but I don't put my entire personality out on the table all at once either. Some mystery is nice.

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Some mystery is nice.

I think "mystery" is one reason why LS keeps going

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I think "mystery" is one reason why LS keeps going

 

I'm with you there. I keep waiting and waiting for Tony and Paul to really open up to us and let us in. But then if they did, I'd probably lose interest. Human nature, you know.

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I'm with you there. I keep waiting and waiting for Tony and Paul to really open up to us and let us in. But then if they did, I'd probably lose interest. Human nature, you know.

YES!!!! That is exactly my point..sort of. :laugh: Except for the Tony and Paul statement.

 

I mean, if a ya don't keep a sense of mystery about yourself in a relationship, then how do you expect someone else to stay interested?

 

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(oh, lord...I just ate six hot wings and three big slices of pizza. urp! :sick: I gotta go get me a beer.)

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YES!!!! That is exactly my point..sort of. :laugh: Except for the Tony and Paul statement.

 

I mean, if a ya don't keep a sense of mystery about yourself in a relationship, then how do you expect someone else to stay interested?

 

Because they actually love you. I mean that kind of mystery is only going to be kept up for so long. I actually like when the mystery is gone and you really know and like the person. That can be better than the chase.

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I mean, if a ya don't keep a sense of mystery about yourself in a relationship, then how do you expect someone else to stay interested?

exactly LUVTOTO....I think sometimes I take the "mystery" part a little too far, however. :laugh:

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I don't play hard to get, but I don't put my entire personality out on the table all at once either. Some mystery is nice.

 

Thanks for translating my post Luv.:)

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I'm with you there. I keep waiting and waiting for Tony and Paul to really open up to us and let us in. But then if they did, I'd probably lose interest. Human nature, you know.

 

Haha. You're a funny dude. :love:

 

Because they actually love you. I mean that kind of mystery is only going to be kept up for so long. I actually like when the mystery is gone and you really know and like the person. That can be better than the chase.

 

I agree with this.

 

Being mysterious for too long can lead the other person to feel that they don't really know you, which is turn can lead to disinterest of sorts, imo.

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exactly LUVTOTO....I think sometimes I take the "mystery" part a little too far, however. :laugh:

Oooo...sounds dangerous. :cool:

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