stace79 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Okay, some of you may have read already...was doing the NC thing. Went less than 24 hours when the ex started freaking....he left me a voicemail and a text overnight that I got when I turned my phone on this morning. He said he realized last night how much he loves me and misses me and will never want a life without me in it. And I reminded him that he was the one who said Wednesday he needed space and time to deal with other issues completely unrelated to our relationship, not to mention that he's still got some unresolved feelings for an ex. Anyway, now all day today he's been messaging me telling me he loves me, he misses me so much, etc. I reminded him AGAIN that he is the one who broke up with me. And he said we didn't break up, just took a break. I just don't know how to deal with this. I didn't intend to answer his call today, but I have Bluetooth in my car, and I didn't recognize the number calling so I thought it was my work, but it was actually him calling on his house line which he never uses to call me. I don't want to keep giving in to him. I know he needs supportive friends and people who love him right now, but I don't want to get sucked in thinking we will end up together again if that isn't the case. I guess I'm not asking any particular question here, just needing support and feedback.
Guest XYZ Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Sounds like he's watched that episode of Friends one too many times. Was it a break or break up? He is paniced because you didn't respond like he thought you would What exactly has he solved in 24 hrs? Have all those issues suddenly disappeared? How has he worked on those issues if he's too preoccupied texting you? Those same issues will still be there in the future if not dealt with now. You can't love this away.
Author stace79 Posted March 3, 2007 Author Posted March 3, 2007 I don't believe anything changed in 24 hours. The only positive is that he realized that I can and will move on. The past two days since this happened, he has been calling me regularly, messaging me telling me how much he is missing me. He has said he now understands how much I mean to him, and it's more than he ever imagined and that he doesn't want a life without me in it. He said today "I can live without you, but I do not want to." I don't think this is a magical fairy tale and that we will be back together, but I am noticing that he is making a real effort to make me feel important to him, which is something that was missing before. I do feel that I need to continue what I'm doing...which is not messaging him or calling him. If he calls and I am able to answer, I will. I have to continue maintaining my own life in case he doesn't ever want to work things out with our relationship. I do feel a lot better about the situation and less panicky than before.
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