Gunny376 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 On the occassion that our 1 year anniversary is coming up, I have to blab to someone about how great my husband is! My friends are sick of hearing about it, I'm sure. I bought him a Playboy 50 years: The photographs and a garden sundial for our anniversary (paper and a clock are the traditional and modern 1 year gifts). Here is why he rocks so much: He set up our extra TV in the living room even though it looks bad in there, so I can be in the same room with him and still play my video games. When I start cleaning or doing chores, he starts doing stuff too. When I cook a meal, he comes in the kitchen and talks to me and we end up chatting while we both do the work. He gets interested in things I'm interested in. If I am excited about a book I read, he'll read it (or try to) so he can talk to me about it. When he buys lunch during work, he always calls or emails and offers to bring me something. He's really nice to all of my friends and family. He never says anything bad about me in front of people, even joking. He says a lot of good things, people say he seems really proud of me. He's very laid back, never jealous, never tries to be bossy, never flirts with other women or checks them out when I am with him. He tells me he loves me about 15 times a day. He gives me head every day. He is a (almost freakishly) good listener. One year during holidays I mentioned my mom likes raspberry chipotle dressing, and a year later he remembered! He always remembers little details of things I mention, but never uses his memory for evil. I could keep going, but I won't. That is all. I just wanted to brag about it. When I read milvushina latest thread about how awesome, and then at the end read, "I could keep going, but I won't." I thought maybe you should, you'd be doing a public good, because some guys are really clueless ~ I know I use to be way back in the day. So, with that in mind what makes a good husband/wife? Include not only attributes, attitudes, what they do ~ but what they don't do,
StayClose Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 What she describes is exactly the sort of doting behavoir men are advised to avoid to stop being the "Nice Guy" that women pass over in favor of a guys that turn them on more.
milvushina Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I am glad that you like my post. I don't know how much I know though. I just do my best to always be honest and talk about things so we don't resent each other when we do get mad. I think to both of us the most important thing is that we build up each other's self esteem. Whenever we think of little compliments, we say it. This didn't used to come natural to me, but I kept doing it, and now it pretty much does. What works for us is that another thing we DON'T do is ever talk about our problems with friends or gripe about the other person. Because we both know our private life will be private, it makes us feel more like "a team" or something. Like we are on the same side even if we don't agree it is us against the problem instead of each against the other. I don't know. But I always thought that advice about not being "too nice" was pretty crappy.
quankanne Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 M is right on the money with her original post, as well as with the one just above – respect, good communication skills, willingness to be with you, loving, kind ... those are the hallmark of a good partner, in my book. oh, and he's got to be able to make you laugh/have a sense of humor. That's a biggie with me, and DH has that capability. Never mind that it's usually something silly that sets me off, but then again, he say's I'm easily entertained :p
boshemia Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I think you made a really good point there, a point worth repeating, underlining, putting in bold face, and shouting... Build up each others self-esteem... As a spouse, as a parent, as anyone who loves anyone else, that's a good point. That doesn't mean holding things in until you are ready to explode, or ignoring things that bother you. It means creating a safe environment where you can express concerns without inflicting emotional damage along with it... I really, really like that... thank you for sharing : )
LuckyStar26 Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 So, with that in mind what makes a good husband/wife? Include not only attributes, attitudes, what they do ~ but what they don't do, This is what I aspire to !! -: http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Ms. Yearwood came as close to what I feel in her song as anyone... "I like a man who's crazy about me I like a man who can live without me too That's what I like about you I like a man who will lay down beside me I like a man who will stand up to me too That's what I like about you I don't want a man to be my twin Under my thumb, under my skin Don't want a man like a shadow on the ground With nothin' else to do but follow me around I like a man who will cry on my shoulder Who don't mind if I cry sometimes too That's what I like about you You can be soft, honey you can be strong Maybe that's the reason we get along Everything you do you do just right You're tender in love, tough in a fight I like a man who will lay down beside me Stand up to me, cry on my shoulder, crazy about me Can live without me too That's what I like about Can't live my life without That's what I like about you " There has to be a happy medium. I don't want a doormat to wipe my feet on, nor do I want a controlling, unfeeling jerk.
4whatItsWorth Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 I'd say these features are the most important: 1. HONEST 2. FAITHFUL (already tons of ppl have failed after these 2...) 3. Caring 4. Kind 5. Intelligent 6. Good in bed 7. Good looking Basically a genuinely nice guy who you can depend on and who will love you and take care of you even on the days you have the worst PMS ever. Now that's a dream guy!
Trialbyfire Posted March 8, 2007 Posted March 8, 2007 You have to be friends and like each other too, besides being lovers and partners. Share both the good and the bad. If your relationship can't take any negativity, it's not realistic.
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