SplitHeart Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Hello Loveshack!! I just want to say No Contact works. Here is my story Broke up January 06 .I transfeered to college.My ex was ignoring me for some reason, and everytime I would happen to get him he would hang up real fast. I got tired so I just said forget it and left him alone. It took everything in my power not to contat him and I succeeded.After one setback on Valentines day:mad: when I texted him. P.S. don't do it !!! im still mad at myself for that today! It so very hard to stay with no contact but if someone broke up with you or the realationship was not working. It is so much better not to contact. You will thank yourself later, especially if this person acted as if they could care less if you were in their life or not. My ex tried to contact me in May .4 months after the breakup, it felt great to take back the little power he had taken away from me. No I will not respond! For Im stating what I will and will not tolerate. I will not accept "im sorrys" that mean absolutely nothing. No we can't be friends! (a friend doesn't mistreat a friend!) I'm saying i deserve more!!! I ended a passionate and deep relationship with no closure or even a goodbye. I figured he didnt want me and thats all I needed to know! Whatever he would have said to me about the breakup was no longer important to me because there was no relationship! To those who are going through no contact it does get better. However there is no time limit. It took me almost a year for a 6 month length relationship, for everyones take different amount of time. Stick to it in no time you will find yourself moving on to better and bigger things. STAY STRONG! No Contactees!! 1
oppath Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Thanks for your post. I agree, it can take different amounts of time to heal depending on the passion involved. My ex mistreated me, but I ended up breaking contact and saying some harsh things. I regret it. I expect this 6 month relationship to take me 6 months to get over. It will take me a while to forgive myself too. But I won't contact her again. In her minds eye, I acted way out of line (and I did), but I feel the same about her. We both have to move on without each other in our lives. I will get over it. If it takes 1 year, it takes 1 year.
amy98ta Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 Thanks for the inspiration! I have been doing no contact since last night at 9:45. It sucks big time! Espically when we would call or text each other all day long. I am literaly going through withdrawl. Instead of calling him I try to call my friends. They know what is going on so they are tolerating me for now! Your post helped me realize that I am doing the right thing and to keep on keeping on!
Stewart Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 NC reminds me of that scene in The Shawshank Redemption where Andy Dufresne has to crawl through "500ft of sh*t" to come out on the other side clean. Same idea with NC I guess! 1
Am4Real Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Hello Loveshack!! It so very hard to stay with no contact but if someone broke up with you or the realationship was not working. It is so much better not to contact. You will thank yourself later, especially if this person acted as if they could care less if you were in their life or not. SplitHeart, You completely understand the use and philosophy of [highlight]NO CONTACT[/highlight]. I can read that you have put in place your boundaries and in this case it is clear you are adamantly against any reconciliation. I understand. My question for you: are you still healing or have you progressed past that point? Am4Real
had3nuff Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 NC reminds me of that scene in The Shawshank Redemption where Andy Dufresne has to crawl through "500ft of sh*t" to come out on the other side clean. Same idea with NC I guess! Bingo!
Author SplitHeart Posted March 4, 2007 Author Posted March 4, 2007 Hello Am4real To answer your question as to have i moved on a put that behind me or am i still healing. Well to be quite honest NEITHER, i'm in between the two. if you understand what i mean. I beleive i will always wonder WHY? but in time It will fade away. Somedays are worst then others for example after posting this message I went to myspace, where I soo oddly ran into a picture with him in his new girlfriend(that he possibly left me for). It hurted so bad, but now all I can do is move on for that answered all my questions. It is simply HE DID NOT WANT ME I don't know why its so hard to accept that. P.S. If i had not gone No Contacct I would have abused myself emotional, and I love myself way to much for that. I didn't do anything to deserve that so he didn't deserve me
DyingHeart Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 Somedays are worst then others for example after posting this message I went to myspace, where I soo oddly ran into a picture with him in his new girlfriend(that he possibly left me for). It hurted so bad, but now all I can do is move on for that answered all my questions. It is simply HE DID NOT WANT ME I didn't do anything to deserve that so he didn't deserve me Same here hun. I like your last line. That's exactly the way I see it. Good luck! DH
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