Icantletgo Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 What pains is when they leave you for someone else. So while you are left lonely, heartbroken, in pain...they are laughing, happy, loving someone new. That's the hardest part. They don't care that you are hurting, cause they have moved on.
DyingHeart Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Yes, it is extremely painful to have an ex move on to someone else and seem blissfully happy, while you are the one, dying inside, trying to figure out what you could've done differently, so that this outcome would've never had happened. I've been there, and a lot of people on this forum have been there as well. I can tell you to forget about them and move on with your life and be a better person and all that, but it's alot easier said than done, eh? Do you have any hobbies? Anything at all to take up some of your time? Try to keep yourself busy, so the hurtful thoughts don't surface too much. But at least you now know what kind of person he or she was. I know it stings, but hun, you'll be alright. Here's a short version of my story. I was with my fiance for 7 years. He decided to break up with me this past December. I was so distraught, I felt like my heart was dying (hence my name). I could barely move, eat or think. Now, about 3 months later, I feel great. I found my inner self, and found out who I was and realized I didn't need him to make me whole. At some point, you will feel the same way. You may not feel like it now, but in due time, you will, and you will beable to look back and smile and wonder what the hell you were thinking Time heals all wounds, and it is very true. Keep strong! Hugs, DH
scubafish Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 DH, I keep reading through LS for the same sentiments you express, but it is sure hard to hold them when you are living through it. after 20 years together, my hubby is leaving for a woman he has been having an affair with for 8 months. he lied a few times about it being over with her, and kept stringing me along about how he knew we could be OK eventually. but finally, I basically said her or me, and he moved out 5 weeks ago. I feel worse now than I did then. and it is because I picture him going out having a good time with her, and being with her every night. I want to strangle her for bragging to her friends about 'stealing' him away. at least most people here, when they break up, it is over and they can start healing. I have months ahead while we sort our affairs, and split 20 years worth of life apart. and yet, every day I wonder if he is going to realize what a mistake he made, and come back. I had thought by now, I would be over that, but it has not happened. maybe a lobotomy will help.......... NC has not helped me yet, but I will continue it, because it is all I can do at this point. Icantletgo, I do not know how long, or serious your relationship was, but I am sure our imaginations are our own worst enemy. If you had loved, I am sure they do care about your hurt, they just cannot do anything about it for you.
Author Icantletgo Posted March 5, 2007 Author Posted March 5, 2007 We were together for 3 years. I graduate this semester with my graduate degree and we had planned on starting out life together. Guess he had other plans in mind.
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