VintageGardenia Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 The guy who I have have come to like is twenty years older then me, we have not started up a relationship up yet as we just met, but I really, really like him and I think he likes me. I am 24 and a college graduate with a good job and highly independent. Probably soon going for my masters degree. The guy is 44, has a good job, British ( Now an American Citizen), divorced a long time ago, no kids over all very very sweet ( everyone who meets him says " he is the nicest man), cute, funny, respecful, loves animals ( fosters homeless dogs), rescue animals are a common interest between us. I generally go for older guys, have found guys in thier twenties to be for the most part immature and don't have any direction in life. Can anyone offer me some advice for the future? Anyone who is a may december relationship?
Rooster_DAR Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I'm not sure about advice but... I am 42 and have been dating a 21 year old for the past two months. We met at work as she was working at my facility part time, we hit it off and we both like each other very much. Her friends all told her she was making a mistake, but after meeting me have since changed their mind. I have always dated and partnered with women far younger than myself, I suppose my genes make me look a lot younger than I really am. As for my opinion, age really doesn't matter much if you both have the right ingredients and some level of maturity. But you do have to think about things such as starting a family, and the prospect that he will probably not be around for as long as you would like him to possibly. Cheers!
melodymatters Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 People are people, take one day at a time. He sounds like a sweetie and if after dating for a while he still is, who cares about the numbers on your birth certificates !???? two of the BEST relationships I know of, are May/December by a bit over 20 yrs each ! Both dated for a few years and are now happily married. I actually think they have more appreciation and respect for each other BECAUSE of their " difference" !!! GO for it and good luck !!!!
Curmudgeon Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Can anyone offer me some advice for the future? Anyone who is a may december relationship? Think 20 years ahead when you're his age now and he's approaching mid-60s. Think children. If you have one when he's 46 then he'll be 64 when the child graduates from high school. Think mortality. Women live longer than men and he already has a 20 year head start on approaching room temperature. Think shared history and experiences. He's live through major events, social trends, music and societal upheavals you can only read about (or listen to). You weren't there. He was. Once you've thought all that out, and more, talk to him about it. Who knows, it just might work! For the record, I'm 60, divorced at 48 and married two years later to someone only two years younger. But that was a personal choice I made taking all the things I wrote above into consideration, and more.
Mary3 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I think : This is your life. Live it freely and as you wish. I like younger men. I always will. You like what you like. Go for it !
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