chrisy484 Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I've been talking with this guy for awhile on the internet, he invited me to spend the weekend with him in Las Vegas. While we were there, there were a few incidents where he would act like I was a burden to him, for example at the hotel he would leave and go gambling, and if I was at the table with him he would just walk away without a word and leave me there like an idiot. Well to make a long story short, there were a few occasions where I acted pissy towards him and I wouldn't express my feelings. Now that we are both back at home, he doesnt talk to me the same as he used to, in fact I think he is through with me. I spoke with him online when we both were home and he asked me if I was mad at him for some reason because at the airport I cried because I was sad to say goodbye. He said we are friends, we dont say goobye. He promised me that he would attend my friends wedding, but now I'm not so sure. I'm just so sad now. I miss him alot and want to make things up to him. Any suggestions? or should I just let it be and go on with my life? He lives far away so its not like i can go see him to apologize, I apologized online on numerous occasions and I asked if he hated me and he said no. Then he asked me, what is it that I wanted from him? What is that suppose to mean?? I just have this feeling he's done with me and I was hoping for more. Can I win his heart back, or did I ruin the whole thing entirely by acting like that?
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Why do you feel the need to apologize??? he would act like I was a burden to him, for example at the hotel he would leave and go gambling, and if I was at the table with him he would just walk away without a word and leave me there like an idiot.Sounds like he's the one who owes you an apology. In any case, why would you want him when he treated you like this? Here's what it sounds like to me: You met online, he invited you to Vegas, you spent time together (maybe slept together?), and now that you're back in your own cities, he's saying you are friends while you are wishing it were more than friends. I don't think you've lost him; I believe you were never a "couple" to begin with.
Author chrisy484 Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 See you understand why I was mad, he had no clue. He said that he felt with me, that he was doing everything wrong. Which he wasn't but I was somewhere I didn't know and I didn't want him to leave me. When I talked to him online he said I was acting pissy and that he was tempted to leave me and go back to the hotel, but he promised not to hurt me so he didn't. I was shocked when he told me this!! I don't know why I still want to continue this, I guess I just want to make a mend and talk things out because I feel like the bad guy, that I ruined everything. Now he is just ignoring me.
Pretty Fly Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I've been talking with this guy for awhile on the internet, he invited me to spend the weekend with him in Las Vegas. While we were there, there were a few incidents where he would act like I was a burden to him, for example at the hotel he would leave and go gambling, and if I was at the table with him he would just walk away without a word and leave me there like an idiot. A guy who was into you would not do this! I don't mean feel bad because he wasn't into you, I mean let it go, you're better off without him, as this sounds just plain rude. (Obviously I'm only going off the info supplied.)
Walk Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I don't think you should feel bad. I would've felt the same way you did. To me though.. it sounds like this guy has a very different idea of what common curtousy is. You're not at fault for this. I don't feel this is your fault. And I think you need to stop beating yourself up over this. You've apologized for something that any NORMAL person would've been upset about. Heck.. My bf chewed my butt for doing the same thing to him one time... HE was HURT by my walking away after putting him in a strange situation. It wasn't his fault he was upset. It was mine. And if anyone carries blame in your situation, it's the guy who invited you to Los Vegas... NOT you.
Yamaha Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 I don't mean to be blunt but he sounds like he's just not that into you. I think when you met he realized that you are not the person he is looking for but he wouldn't mind being a friend to you. I think you need to decide if this is enough for you. You want more and I think he has moved on to other possibilities. I certainly don't think you need to apolgize anymore as you did nothing wrong. If anything he was rather rude and he should be the one to apologize. Peace...
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 Maybe you two clicked online, but to be honest it sounds like you didn't offline. He treated you like crap, ignored you, and he still wants to be friends, wonders why you're mad at him? Dump his ass! You can do better! You don't need some guy who is gonna treat you badly...Even if you do really like him - He's not worth it.
scubafish Posted March 5, 2007 Posted March 5, 2007 I am not sure, maybe I am missing some details, but spending a weekend in a strange town with a guy you only met online as a 'first meet', is kinda scary to begin with. you might be lucky it just ended up being a 'bad date' experience, and not worse. It is normal to feel bad that it didn't really work out, after you have invested so much time online in the relationship. but it is not your fault at all. he just ended up not being all that into you in real life. I would not invest any more time in this, maybe backing off will give him time to think, and if he does contact you or go to wedding, you can start on new ground.
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