steenerz Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 There's this guy I've gone on 3 dates with....at first, I wasn't THAT interested in him...our first date was really great, and he himself is everything i want in a guy (so far) but for some reason, I wasn't REALLY attracted to him, until now. He had definitely seemed interested...he called me a few times after the first date, we would talk online, etc. ANYWAY. This past weekend, we celebrated my birthday with his friends...I ended up drinking way way WAY too much, and said some really stupid things, and now I'm afraid I've turned him off. I texted him the next day and apologized for my behavior, and he said he was just glad I had a good time. (He tried to kiss me too, but I got too nervous!!) I texted him today asking if he was interested in going tomorrow night, and I haven't heard anything yet. If I don't hear from him by tomorrow, should I call him? Or just take it as he doesn't like me anymore?
Pretty Fly Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 If you acted like you weren't that interested on the first few dates AND then turned away when he tried to kiss you, he's more than likely thinking YOU aren't interested in HIM. You need to correct that.
Author steenerz Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 well, that's kind of why I asked him out to dinner tomorrow night.
Pretty Fly Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Texting though is just like "oh I have a couple of seconds I'll txt this guy" and it can all seem very "off-hand" for want of a better word. Call him instead so he knows you want to make the effort. So far it sounds like you haven't been giving him a lot in the way of encouraging signals ( again, going off what you've said - there may be subtlties here i'm not privvy too) - be overt!!!!
Author steenerz Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 Well, he texts me too...if I didn't think he was ok with texting I wouldn't have done it. It's not too much if I call him tomorrow, right? (if he doesn't respond by tomorrow night, that is)
Author steenerz Posted March 2, 2007 Author Posted March 2, 2007 does anyone else have advice/opinions? I could use all the input I can get. Seriously!
wookinpanub Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I say just call. He very easily could have not gotten the text. I personally hate those damn things. Annoying to type and dont even get there sometimes.
LoveLace Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 If he doesn't respond to the text, call him tomorrow. If he doesn't answer leave a message. Then don't call him anymore. If he's still into you he will call back.
ratingsguy Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 IMHO, text messages are the most impersonal way to maintain contact with someone. Pick up the phone and give him a call. If he doesn't call back you may as well move on. Good luck!
Guest Posted March 3, 2007 Posted March 3, 2007 You've dated a few times. He apparently has decided he's not interested, whether it was the birthday party or not. The first few dates are a sort of "trial period." They are deciding if they want to "buy" you as his girlfriend or not (and you are doing the same.) Apparently he didn't feel you are a good fit. Nothing to cry about though. That's what life is about.
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