Guest Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 been with my bird for close to two years. she went on an open-ended trip of roughly about 4-5 months, which we're coming to the end of shortly. we both agreed we were gonna take time to spend on our personal growth while apart, but we never discussed how frequesntly we were to communicate. i suggested once a wk, and she couldn't agree to it. that bugged me out a bit, and added to my bummed state brought on by obviously missing her. then she said she might extend her trip only a week or so after that, and then i sort of lost it & overreacted. we decided to take some time to chill & not talk over xmas, but before then i did take the opportunity to apologize for acting the way i did. and the break was good for me...i made the most of it. a month later, i mail her to wish her a happy birthday, and she mailed back saying that our reunion in europe (which we planned before her trip) was cancelled & that she was returning earlier than she'd expected. i'd learned that she'd split off with her travel partner, picked up with another group & went on a totally different route, and i can only imagine how empowering it must be. but at this point, i'm confused. obviously there's distance due to experience, time and what we both added to the situation. we have distance, and I KNOW our situation is different. also, we had talked about marriage & the like before she left...could this be cold feet? maybe the crush of expectations? i just don't know how i should approach this-i'm realistic about where we are but i'm having a hard time dealing with this not-knowing business. any advice or analysis?
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