So the other men in the world flirting with my girl

[kn0t_head666]

So every couple days theres a new problem I have, well not a new problem but a new person. Guys keep hitting on my girl friend and they dont stop i've threatened a good number of them and this has resulted to make my gf loose friends, but how are these friends? Their dis respectfull to both me and her, but she says to me not to do anything. She has a bunch of reasons some make more sense then others but still what do i do, I've tried talking to her about the way i feel about it but she wont seem to understand me with this. Do i listen to her or do i take out these kids one by one. I'm in a lets say group of friends with a "rep" of being tough guys, I dont give a crap about the group but me as a man i think these kids are barking up the wrong tree. They are all dirt bags and i dont like it. Also this kid that says he really likes her is now hitting on her i promised i wouldn't do anything because ... eh idk actually lol but he wont succeed, i know that but should i care/do anything.

 

I'm lost.... please help i feel like i'm being buried.. thats my gut feeling.

[JackJack]

You keep referring to these guys as kids, like how old are you talking about? Maybe there is a reason your g/f wants you to leave them alone. I think either you should ignore these other guys or find a g/f, that a bunch of guys are not after.

[kn0t_head666]

lol im 16 the kids are 15-23 fg is 17

[KittenMoon]

Girls like it when guys hit on them.

 

Girls like it even more when a guy "protects" her from them.

 

 

If she acts like they annoy and she wants it to stop, then good for her and you. If she doesn't, and seems to enjoy the attention, she probably doesn't values you much as a bf.

 

You should talk to HER about this, not get into stupid fights over a girl. Granted you are only 16, but you should know better, or learn now that girlfriends are not damsels in distress who need you to fight off all the evil trolls.

[kn0t_head666]

damn now that right there is some good advice lol. ok so i think i get it.. just act on how she views the situation and then i'll do whats right ok ty!!

[Trialbyfire]

Not only that but your girl should know how to freeze these guys off, starting with body language and progressing to put-downs. Almost every attractive girl is born with this ability. It's almost instinctual, lol.

[chryssy83]

I don't know exactly what this "flirting" is like, and you didn't say what her "reasons" are that you shouldn't "take them out." BUT, just consider this:

 

What if these guys aren't really hitting on her? Is it possible that you're just being too jealous and these guys are actually just being friendly but you're assuming that they are disrespecting you?

 

If your gf's "reasons" not to kill them are about how they aren't really flirting with her, you might take a look at yourself. If you isolate her from all her friends someday a guy might come along who has some success with her because he won't be so jealous.

 

I could be totally wrong here, but it's just a thought.

[WildKittySub]

If the flirting isn't bothering her, and you don't think she will go with them, I'm not seeing why it is so upsetting to you? I would bet you would be flattered if girls came on to you, so why can't she be flattered?

It does depend on what flirting means to you, if they are grabbing her body parts, that's probably not cool.

But if its not bothering her, only you, then maybe you need to look at yourself and your relationship. Maybe this isn't the girl for you.

I'm a flirty person. It means nothing and the guys I flirt with know that. There are lines you don't cross. I wouldn't know how to act if I didn't flirt sometimes.

Not all guys can handle this and not all women want to stop. You need to decide what is more important to you.

Can't you just be flattered that the girl you are with is wanted by so many?

"Taking them out", is no solution, will get you into trouble and eventually ensure that you lose her.

[TheDC]

If you are so immature that you feel so threatened by your girl getting a little attention then you should probably break up with her and wait until you have grown up enough to be in an adult relationship.

 

I love how kids today throw around the word respect and disrespect like they know what it means. Hate to break it to you but respect is earned.