confusedandempty Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Hello everyone - I really need to vent and when I feel so down like I feel now I like to come here and read some posts and even post myself. It simply makes me feel better. The thing is that my ex and I broke up little over four months ago. It was the first girl that I really loved. I was getting a little tired in the relationship, but I cared more for this girl than anyone else so I didn't wanna break it up. Few weeks later I found out that she was also getting tired in the relationship and she broke it off. It crushed my heart, but I guess that it probably crushed me ego more than anything else. Today, 4,5 months later I'm still feeling a bit like crap. It hasn't got a lot to do with my ex, just simply life as a whole. I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. I go to school every day, but I have really hard time waking up and usually wake up 2 hours to late. All of my friends have girlfriends and more importantly, three of my best friends are having babies late in the summer. Resulting in them spending awful lot of time with their girlfriends which kind of leaves me in the corner having nothing to do in the evenings. I feel like I need a woman in my life. Nobody needs someone like this in his life. I know that, but I feel like I can't go on with all my friends in happy relationships and me watching sitcoms and studying every night. Therefore I've been dating a lot recently. I haven't met anyone that I like until just a month ago, but now it seems like she doesn't think it's gonna work out. Being rejected like that, although it isn't rejection, just wakes up old memories of my ex and I've been thinking too much about her lately. I'm becoming desperate and I try to fall in love with every woman I meet. For an example I dated this girl for well over a month. A girl who has no ambition in her life, works as a waitress in a restaurant and has no intentions on going to school or find a better job. I don't know why I would want a girl like that. And the funny thing about me getting desperate, I'm 23 years old. At least 10 years from having to start being desperate. Do you guys have any advices for me how I can start lift myself up and do something with my life. Remember that although I have a lot of friends, they're just not all that available now because of the babies. The summer is coming and need to get myself up on a higher plan. I just don't know why. Any advices will be appreciated...
Icantletgo Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I am going through the same thing. I am going to graduate with my doctorate and my ex is working at the mall and still is considered a junior in a community college. I know I am better than him and I know that I will find someone better but it's incredibly hard when you dont have someone and at my age (24) and in my city, everyone is either a) in a long term relationship already b) married or c) has kids. It's incredibly hard. But i have hope and I have faith. These forums have helped me cope. And although you wanna stay home and mope and be sad by yourself, i just go to a friend's house. I may not want to talk to them about this but them just being there IF I NEEDED TO TALK..is enough. I am still heartbroken and there are nights when i still cry myself to sleep but I just pray that he will come one day when I least expect it. Hang in there.
Am4Real Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I am going through the same thing. I am going to graduate with my doctorate and my ex is working at the mall and still is considered a junior in a community college. I know I am better than him and I know that I will find someone better but it's incredibly hard when you dont have someone and at my age (24) and in my city, everyone is either a) in a long term relationship already b) married or c) has kids. It's incredibly hard. But i have hope and I have faith. These forums have helped me cope. And although you wanna stay home and mope and be sad by yourself, i just go to a friend's house. I may not want to talk to them about this but them just being there IF I NEEDED TO TALK..is enough. I am still heartbroken and there are nights when i still cry myself to sleep but I just pray that he will come one day when I least expect it. Hang in there. Twenty-four is pretty young. Don't fret, please, the pressures of seeing your peers paired up should not influence your best approach to finding true love and hapiness. Best to you.
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