Cossette4 Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Ok, this post isn't really constructive or insightful in any way, but I just felt like typing this out so I can stop being annoyed and go to bed. Does anyone else get extremely annoyed by "friends" who act like their relationships are super perfect and eternally awesome, especially when they don't have any ground to stand on and make those claims? I have a "friend" who I've known for the past 6 years who has never had a relationship last beyond 2 months. She's probably had about 10 2-month relationships in the course of 4 years. So then, two years ago, at age 19, she meets this guy who is 8 years older than her, and she finally breaks the 2-month curse. So this past July, when they have been dating for 1.5 years, he asks her to marry him and she says yes. Now, most of my friends find the engagement ridiculous in and of itself because of their age difference, and because this is the first guy she's dated that's made it past two months, so we feel like she's "in love" with that more than the guy himself. She has a right to do whatever she wants I suppose, but where ANNOYING comes in is how she talks to me about "love" like, "Oh I've been through it all....now I know why it didn't work out with anyone else. Don't worry, Cossette, someday you'll find true love too, just like me." And she prides herself on being engaged like it's some huge feat to accomplish and she is the "winner" in the game of love. This bothers me because 1) No "friend," you haven't "been through it all." As *tragic* as those breakups with those guys you dated for like, 45 days must have been:rolleyes: , nothing compares to the heartbreak of losing someone you were with for, oh I dunno, 5 years. The "Now I know why it didn't work out with anyone else" line is meant to refer to previous relationships that actually LASTED for awhile, not for the guy you go out on 3 dates with and then he never calls you back. 2) She talks down to me because she has this engagement ring on her finger, yet my relationship with my ex lasted almost 3 times as long as her current relationship is now. Why does your engagement ring make you the relationship expert/queen? Why does your ring mean you "know what true love is?" 3) I remember what I felt like at 2 years in my relationship--giddy over-the-top love. And then three years later, I felt completely different. But, instead of her seeing that as a warning sign for her own relationship, she writes those things off like "Well YOU obviously don't know what love is." "Well MY relationship is just stronger and more real than yours." She wouldn't bother me at all if I wasn't still struggling with my break up, but I am so her "I'm soooo in love yay for marriage want to see my ring?!?!" mantra really gets to me. I know "life isn't fair," but please tell me this girl isn't going to get by this easy and be able to boast about how great her life is and will forever be and actually be right about it. So basically to sum up, she sucks.
boshemia Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 There is no greater feeling than being in love, and nothing more annoying than a friend in love : ) Even if you are happy for them, you can only handle hearing snookums so many times before you puke. My mother has been married and divorced 5 times! and each time she goes through the same thing you describe in your friend. She's happy, and there's nothing you can do about it but make her unhappy... either she is right, and her relationship will last and they will live happily ever after... and you will be the bad guy. Or they will be a disaster and miserable, and you will still be the bad guy... Good guys stay out of their friends relationships at all costs, offer support but never advice. Ummm... that's my advice... I never said I was consistent
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