Icantletgo Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 My boyfriend and I broke up in july after 2.5 years together. he wanted to get back together but the whole time he started dating this other girl. Why come back to be with me AND date her at the same time!!?? I only found out 6 months later when i decided to sneak around on his cell phone!! I dont think he ever would have told me!!! WHY DO THEY DO THIS???
Sun_Conure Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 So are you two back together? Did he stop dating that other girl long ago or just recently?
Author Icantletgo Posted March 1, 2007 Author Posted March 1, 2007 No. We aren't back together. He still calls me though. He always talks to me about THEIR problems cause he says i'm the only person he could ever really talk to. Yea I'm dumb for being here for him but I'm I still love him. The girl actually wanted to stop dating him recently. If i was smart I would not be here for him..so he'll see that WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I'll keep you updated.
Island Girl Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 If i was smart I would not be here for him.. The answer to your question is he is doing this because you are letting him. Your quote above says it all.
Sun_Conure Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 I agree with Island Girl and I am in the similar position as you are except that my ex bf does not complain to me about their problems. Instead he wants to have sex with me all the time. Anyway, I believe that I allowed him to do this to me and now it is time to establish some boundaries. It is each person's responsibility to make sure that he/she is treated the way he/she wants to be treated. So I am sure it is my fault that I allowed him to treat me this way and only I could change his treatment of me. Same goes for you. The bottom line is: If you do not want to listen to his problems, do not take his phone calls. Easier said then done though
Trialbyfire Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 Ladies, you deserve better. Do not remain a convenience to these guys. People rarely appreciate anything until they lose it. Too bad with these selfish little boys that they will never appreciate anything unless it's self-gratifying...
Author Icantletgo Posted March 1, 2007 Author Posted March 1, 2007 And you know what else I hate about them contacting us??? We can't help but be weak cause we still love 'em (if we are NOT the dumper)...and if they say little things like "i can't talk to her like I can talk to you" or "when i was with you i thought i was going to be w/ you forever". you know they dont want to be with you anymore...THAT'S WHY THEY LEFT...and you know that you can't be with them anymore...CAUSE THERE IS NO TRUST...but you still want them to love you again!!
Kamille Posted March 1, 2007 Posted March 1, 2007 And you know what else I hate about them contacting us??? We can't help but be weak cause we still love 'em (if we are NOT the dumper)...and if they say little things like "i can't talk to her like I can talk to you" or "when i was with you i thought i was going to be w/ you forever". you know they dont want to be with you anymore...THAT'S WHY THEY LEFT...and you know that you can't be with them anymore...CAUSE THERE IS NO TRUST...but you still want them to love you again!! Run Forest run! I mean run Icantletgo run! For your sake and his, you have to stop being his confidente. You will only end up damaging whatever shreds of respect you have for the time that you two were together. Not to mention, you will eventually lose respect for him. Since you two are friends, you could tell him you would prefer he not confide in you until you have completely moved past the relationship. Then keep healing and get over him. Once you are over him, then maybe you two can be friends again. Oh and don't be fooled by his comments. Actions speak way louder then words. good luck!
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